strosgal86 Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 I need some advice on talking to the ex after not for 5 months. I just wanted some opinions. I know some people say don't do it b/c they're an ex for a reason but other people say do it that it won't hurt. I'm not doing it hoping to get back together, I mean that would be nice later down the road if it did happen but not planning on it, I just want us to be able to talk and be friends again! It wasn't a messy break up or anything (I know that's an important detail) anyway just wanted to get you guys and gals thoughts on it before I try to talk to him and do the wrong thing. Thanks!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 Can you sit across from him and listen to him talk about his relationship with a new girl and feel nothing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author strosgal86 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Share Posted January 30, 2009 Can you sit across from him and listen to him talk about his relationship with a new girl and feel nothing? I think so, we haven't spoken in person yet so I don't know but hypothetically I guess so. We work together (in different areas so don't see each other often) but we did a few days ago and it was fine, still not speaking but we smiled and looked at each other, I'm just worried it can either go good and we can start communicating or bad and he can be like "I told you I don't want to talk" or any number or those type of responses you know So I just wanted to know what everyone thought, I've heard it's kind of a split issue Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted January 30, 2009 Share Posted January 30, 2009 I don't know, part of me thinks that if you were really ready it would just happen and you wouldn't have to think about it much. You wouldn't make a post about it and it would just be because you would be indifferent to the situation. If friends happened fine. But, I suspect if you work together you could start by speaking to him in ways that would be normal work talk when you see each other. Jokes, observations, but nothing much. Don't give him any space to reject you, if he does not respond to it then fine, hes childish and let it go. Don't approach him saying, you want to hang out and talk, perhaps we can be friends. Just make slight words OK. Don't put yourself out there to much. I don't know. That's all I have. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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