jadelil25 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Please I really need your advice. My boyfriend is having a bad time and is working long hours. Yesterday he message me, apologising for not getting back to me and apologising for not being able to meet up. I messaged back, saying thats ok, dont worry, i understand that you are busy. I said that i just want to be there for him and make him happy. I also metioned about our plans for saturday and said i hope to see you saturday, thats if you still want to. If your girlfriend put this in a message would it annoy you/p**s you off?? He did not reply - accepted he is busy at work. I then txt this morning, realising i was out of order. Just asked how he is, asked if we can still hang out tomorrow and asked if he wanted to go to the cinema. I also said that i went home early from work ill and apologised for upsetting him. What can i do to rectify this? Should i send another message saying that i would like to treat him to lunch to cheer him up? Why is he not getting back? What i have done, would it annoy you? Please note, this is his 1st relationship so he is knew to having someone there etc. When we are together he says that he cares about me, i make him happy, he misses me and that he wants to make me happy. I just want to be there for him, support him and make him happy. Really need your help!!
Lauriebell82 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Why is this all through texts? That's the first problem. Phone calls are better. Find some time that works for both of you to at least have a "chat." I think it was good that you were supportive and inquired if your plans for Saturday were still on. However, then you asked "if that's still what you want to do." That comes off as a little insecure. Like you don't believe he still wants to go. I think just a simple "hey are we still on for Saturday?" would have been good. Now all the text messages and "I'm sorrys" ARE probably getting on his nerves, I'm sorry to say. My advice is stop texting him. Let him come to you. Stay busy, do your own thing. Show him you aren't needy and he'll probably contact you.
alphamale Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 What can i do to rectify this? why don't you leave him alone for a little while, like 3 or 4 days. no txts, no calls, no emails, nothing, zippo, zilch, nada then see what happens
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