NoIDidn't Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 On that note, OWoman should embrace any woman who has sex with her new husband. As a humanist, I'm sure she will agree. Well, she did say it was to be a marriage of convenience so they can live together in the country they are moving to/ or already living in.
herenow Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well' date=' she did say it was to be a marriage of convenience so they can live together in the country they are moving to/ or already living in.[/quote'] Sounds good to me. So, as a "hater" I hereby wish OWoman the best for a happy life with her new husband.
Author OWoman Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 I think I get it. I have a friend who is a humanist. Now I'm not an expert, so forgive me if this is not right. My friend tells me that as a humanist, she believes that her views, or morals if you will, are to be determined by her own life experiences and not by law or religious beliefs. If that is true, I have a much better understanding of where you are coming from. But I ask that you understand that many of us have also based our opinions on our own personal experiences. That doesn't mean we are "haters". HN, nowhere did I have you in mind when I referred to "haters". I think it's clear enough from their posts on others' threads who those are (James seemed to have no problem getting it:p). I guess there are as many kinds of "humanist" as there are Christian, Muslim, animist or whatever, but your outline is correct.
Author OWoman Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 On that note, OWoman should embrace any woman who has sex with her new husband. As a humanist, I'm sure she will agree. Errr - embrace ? This logic suggests that I would have wanted the BW to "embrace" me . I realise this may have arisen from NID's "humanist = lesbian" line of thought, but believe me, I've never had any desire to be embraced by his xW and I'm not in the habit of going around embracing random people. I've stated previously that it wouldn't faze me. Why the need to embrace? That sounds like reductio ad absurdum, or perhaps Oprah .
datura_noir Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 He sounds like a winner...God Bless both of y'all.....congrats;)
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 Didn't see an answer. Sorry for asking the same question if you did. Will it be an open marriage?
theBrokenMuse Posted February 1, 2009 Posted February 1, 2009 She does abide by the laws, but her morals aren't shaped by church or state. However, my friend is married (happily from what I see) with kids who go to school with my kids. She just believes that her own experiences determine her morals and beliefs. This is how she described being a humanist to me. Her ethics and morals pretty much match mine because that is how she chooses to live. Do unto to others... because that is the right thing to do for her, not because someone told her it's what she should do. I'm a secular humanist myself. Some of our (and by our I mean human beings not humanists) morals are believed to be defined by the culture we grow up in but many of the basic principals are ones that developed out of necessity in order to function as a cohesive unit over a great deal of time and are innate in us. You can even see moral codes starting to bud among other primates and even some other social animals like wolves. Ethics are a whole different enchilada.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I have a history of being a serial OW. Yes...we know all too well. Many As, many MMs. And no, I have no shame. We know this too. I feel no guilt and, given those situations and were I in the same life phase as I was back then, I would do it all over again. Hurl your rocks now! And, some of those MMs dumped their BWs because of the As. Yes, homewrecker!! Hurl more rocks. It wasn't what I wanted from them - I wanted all the advantages and control and power of an A - so I dumped them. Come on, fling those rocks! And now, my most recent MM and I are about to marry. His D is through, our wedding is booked, our honeymoon set and our future bliss mapped out. We're both ecstatically happy, as are our kids, his family, his colleagues and all of our friends. We're proof of how liberating an A can be - how it can break the shackles of an oppressive M and allow an abused H to experience true love and allow kids the possibility of a happy family life by removing them from a toxic M. Haters, we're your worst nightmare, an A that worked out to everyone's benefit (with one possible exception, though that is also moot) so HURL YOUR BOULDERS HERE!! Not going to hurl anything except to say that, its obvious, this is a sh#t stirring post.
Dexter Morgan Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 He's gonna do the same thing to you. Guaranteed. You guys will get married, and he's gonna find some nice young hot thang, and she will wreck your home. Or it might not even be with a woman. You know men these days. You take it to the bank that he will most certainly cheat on you too. Remember, she is cut from the same mold. So given that and her views on not believing in sexual exclusivity, it may just end up being her cheating on him.
Reggie Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Don't you ever tire of drawing attention to yourself, OW?
mr.dream merchant Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 The only thing I can think of hurling is a life's supply of 2ply condoms for your H. Best wishes of an STD free life for your husband.
NewSunrise Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Don't you ever tire of drawing attention to yourself, OW? Completely agree. Your punchline caught my attention. Use of such words as "haters" speaks volume of your own hatred directed at anyone who don't agree with your choices. Simply disagreeing with one's life choices don't make them out to be haters. Venting out their opinions against yours don't make them haters. We're all different. Yet you equally and harshly judge (throwing stones) at those who disagree with you. Understand, your situation does not sit well with the majority. So be careful using such words. I do wish you well O. May you find "true" happiness this time around. And perhaps you'll ease up a bit?
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