Bossman101 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Quick Background: I have been interested in a co-worker for some time now. During this time period we have exchanged flirtatious smiles and hellos when we cross paths but never really talked because we work in different departments. A few months ago a work project crossed out paths so I was able to get to know her a little bit. Most of the conversations were business related but occasionally I would poke fun at her or make fun of something and she would blush and laugh. I sensed we may have a mutual attraction to each other. Another co-worker even told me she thought I "had the hots for her". Recently I caught her alone at work and asked her if is she would want to go out sometime. She gave me a smile and replied "maybe", but said she has been seeing someone for awhile. As we discussed further she repeated "maybe" and added "we will go out eventually" into the mix. I told her I understood and I would keep in touch. So what did she mean with "maybe" and then "eventually"? What should I do next? -or- How much time should I giver her? I do not want to pressure her or become a pest. Any advice would be great.
yarn Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 My 2 cents. She is not 100% committed to her "someone" yet, or is, but doesn't want you to think that, because she probably wants to lead you on.... she sounds like she's trying to keep her options open. If you don't mind playing games for a little while, play cool but at the same time, show her little attention here and there. If you don't want to play games, just move on. There are many women out there. If she want to hang out with you, she'll. If not, not. How much time should you give her? As long or as short as you would allow yourself to wait for her.... or until the next interest comes along.... Sorry if I sound too harsh.....
RRyan65 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Quick Background: I have been interested in a co-worker for some time now. During this time period we have exchanged flirtatious smiles and hellos when we cross paths but never really talked because we work in different departments. A few months ago a work project crossed out paths so I was able to get to know her a little bit. Most of the conversations were business related but occasionally I would poke fun at her or make fun of something and she would blush and laugh. I sensed we may have a mutual attraction to each other. Another co-worker even told me she thought I "had the hots for her". Recently I caught her alone at work and asked her if is she would want to go out sometime. She gave me a smile and replied "maybe", but said she has been seeing someone for awhile. As we discussed further she repeated "maybe" and added "we will go out eventually" into the mix. I told her I understood and I would keep in touch. So what did she mean with "maybe" and then "eventually"? What should I do next? -or- How much time should I giver her? I do not want to pressure her or become a pest. Any advice would be great. Thats it. You're done. You've planted the seeds and hopefully they'll germinate. You did exactly what you needed to do, and now all you can do is wait. She now knows your intentions clearly, so its up to her to come to you if that ever happens. Its fair if she does, its fair if she doesnt. All you can do is wait, but by no means get your hopes up. Anymore pressure or suggestions is 100% pushing it, and women usually don't respond as well to that as they do a guy who plays it cool.
RRyan65 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I'll add one more thing, given the chance that she's too hesitant to ask you out when the times good. If she's ever done with her current guy and the time is right for her to see you, you'll know this because her game will pick up with you. More flirting. More convo initiation from her part. That's a signal that will allow you to suggest going out with her again.
D-Lish Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I'll add one more thing, given the chance that she's too hesitant to ask you out when the times good. If she's ever done with her current guy and the time is right for her to see you, you'll know this because her game will pick up with you. More flirting. More convo initiation from her part. That's a signal that will allow you to suggest going out with her again. Good call- and very true. She's not commited right now- she's totally keeping her options open. My advice? Don't wait. Never wait. If she becomes more commited to this other guy- she'll stop interacting with you. If thing don't work out- she will let you know they broke up- she'll go out of her way to do so. Ball's in her court. Don't wait for her.
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