Lucky555 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 So we are just communicating at this point getting to know eachother however, he has some girl he dated on his myspace with a picture of him and her. We are not dating or exclusive. But i find this rather ODD and WEIRD. If hes is single and getting to know me and flirting with me why does he have this other girl in his pic? (I know they dated) Now, one last thing..i texted him while he was at a class wishing him a good time because it was a long and i knew he had a long day as well. I figured something to show i was thinking of him and just being sweet like that was a nice thing to do. Apparently, he decided not to text me back anything. So I'm thinking hes a WEIRDO. He also lied to me about something i asked him, hes like oh i did that before and when i asked him hes like oh not really. WEIRDO What the heck. Is this dude just wanting attention? Maybe i will stop responding to him. man. he sucks right now.
unacceptable62 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 1) Maybe he and his ex are still good friends. It's not odd to have a picture of you and a friend as your profile picture. 2) Stop being annoyed by him not texting you back. Maybe he's actually trying to pay attention in class? Maybe it's in his bag and he didn't know that you texted him? Maybe he just doesn't feel like responding (I get lots of texts that I don't feel like responding to)? 3) I don't understand the whole "lie" thing. If it's something as simple as: Him: Oh yeah I went and saw movie A <later> You: So, what did you think about movie A? Him: Oh, I never saw it. That is a simple, harmless lie and not weird in any way. Lighten up and cut him some slack.
bean1 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Lucky, You aren't even dating this guy! That isn't even unusual behaviour for husbands or long-term partners, let alone someone you aren't even dating. If this guy finds out that these things bother you, he's going to run for the hills!
runner Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 1) 3) I don't understand the whole "lie" thing. If it's something as simple as: Him: Oh yeah I went and saw movie A <later> You: So, what did you think about movie A? Him: Oh, I never saw it. That is a simple, harmless lie and not weird in any way. Lighten up and cut him some slack. ??? i would find this totally questionable. maybe i just prefer being around people who mean what they say and say what they mean, honestly and consistently.
unacceptable62 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 You're right, because that could NEVER be the result of a brain fart?
RRyan65 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Lucky, You aren't even dating this guy! That isn't even unusual behaviour for husbands or long-term partners, let alone someone you aren't even dating. If this guy finds out that these things bother you, he's going to run for the hills! Agreed. I hate to say it Lucky, but you're coming off as a WEIRDO yourself :/ Actually, you're the only WEIRDO in this situation, lol. No offense.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 runner: " i would find this totally questionable. maybe i just prefer being around people who mean what they say and say what they mean, honestly and consistently." I absolutely agree with this post. Mean what they say and say what they mean. The question was about a sport I was interested in learning and he told me he has done this. I started to think great at some point we could do this or something. BUT, he never did this sport in reality. Thats just weird. So the myspace picture...Maybe they are friends, I don't know and were not dating I will let it go. I really just didn't know what to think about it. The text. Well you are all right. We are not dating, maybe it would be different if we were. Yeah it was during his class I will let it go. I'm still going to see other people so its not a big deal i suppose. I guess I thought it was a nice gesture and there is no "hey thanks" kind of thing so it seems as if it doesn't matter. Oh well, time to get out there and meet some new guys!
zhsoj Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 The question was about a sport I was interested in learning and he told me he has done this. I started to think great at some point we could do this or something. BUT, he never did this sport in reality. Thats just weird. I know I for one have misheard a question/statement, answered/replied too quickly, and then only later in the conversation realized my mistake. Usually I just let it go unless it becomes necessary to clarify. I don't want to lie, but I don't want to introduce unnecessary awkwardness either.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 I know I for one have misheard a question/statement, answered/replied too quickly, and then only later in the conversation realized my mistake. Usually I just let it go unless it becomes necessary to clarify. I don't want to lie, but I don't want to introduce unnecessary awkwardness either. He "wrote this" I had told him what i wanted to do (the sport) while going away somewhere and he said he had done this type of sport before. It was in an e-mail. I then texted him later and told him how "exciting" it was that he could do this sport. He then replied he didn't really know how to do this and basically he never actually did this. UM a tad weird. Maybe he wanted to impress me but obviously i rather have someone not lie to me.
You'reasian Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 So we are just communicating at this point getting to know eachother however, he has some girl he dated on his myspace with a picture of him and her. We are not dating or exclusive. But i find this rather ODD and WEIRD. If hes is single and getting to know me and flirting with me why does he have this other girl in his pic? (I know they dated) Now, one last thing..i texted him while he was at a class wishing him a good time because it was a long and i knew he had a long day as well. I figured something to show i was thinking of him and just being sweet like that was a nice thing to do. Apparently, he decided not to text me back anything. So I'm thinking hes a WEIRDO. He also lied to me about something i asked him, hes like oh i did that before and when i asked him hes like oh not really. WEIRDO What the heck. Is this dude just wanting attention? Maybe i will stop responding to him. man. he sucks right now. Women do the same thing. Call 'em and they never pick up. Text and they don't return. Could be really busy but if you haven't talked about it you'll never know why.
carhill Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 If this guy finds out that these things bother you, he's going to run for the hills! LOL.... he already knows
You'reasian Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 He "wrote this" I had told him what i wanted to do (the sport) while going away somewhere and he said he had done this type of sport before. It was in an e-mail. I then texted him later and told him how "exciting" it was that he could do this sport. He then replied he didn't really know how to do this and basically he never actually did this. UM a tad weird. Maybe he wanted to impress me but obviously i rather have someone not lie to me. Which sport?
Author Lucky555 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 Well I actually don't know the guy well enough yet. I am keeping my distance because HE LIVES 3 states away!! he initiated. Why lie to me about doing a sport. I just want the guy to be real about himself. Thank you all for the feedback. Hes a new dude, I have never met him, I just needed answers to know if I should be cautious of that or not. I have never encountered this. Every guy is different.
carhill Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Which sport?BDSM OP, seriously, these contacts are just blips upon the vast experience of your life. Make it your work to experience as many of them as possible and give them the appropriate weight and importance in your life, the blips that they are.
zhsoj Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 it was surfing. D00dz. Like totally wicked man. Sorry, couldn't help myself
unacceptable62 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I guarantee that he said that he surfed to try to impress you. Once you "called him out" on it, he folded. It's very harmless.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 I guarantee that he said that he surfed to try to impress you. Once you "called him out" on it, he folded. It's very harmless. Makes me wonder what else he would lie about though.
unacceptable62 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 If you are so worried, just cut it off and find someone else. Personally, I find that to be a very small fib, and would be flattered if I was you. He really seems like he was trying to impress you.
You'reasian Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I've never surfed, but I have body surfed. Now that's fun! Yeah, I'd give the guy the benefit of the doubt. If he keeps lying, call him out on it - see how he reacts.
sid3 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Wouldn't 'some dude' be more appropriate than 'the new dude' at this stage. There must be a shortage of single men in your state. And it's not unusual for a text to be delivered much later than when it was sent. It can be totally unreliable one mintute and the next it works fine.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 I've never surfed, but I have body surfed. Now that's fun! Yeah, I'd give the guy the benefit of the doubt. If he keeps lying, call him out on it - see how he reacts. Yeah I was thinking the same thing. I just need to relax and enjoy the process but keep my wits about me. If he continues making up things he will have to go. Thanks
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