Am I the only one that only wants to be with one person?

[Alex_M]

I feel like I'm the only person that wants to have one love. Sure I've had other crushes and enjoyed going out with other girls. But I just don't want to ever love more than one person.

 

Whenever someone says, oh you'll find someone else and you wont even remember your ex. It really gets to me, because I don't want to be like that. I know a lot of people who breakup feel that they can't be with someone else but it feels much more deep-rooted than that. Like I have a moral objection to it. So much so that I feel almost that I've been cheated out of it by having this relationship end.

 

I'm young and probably living in a fantasy world

 

InB4 So much of your life ahead of you and stuff.

[CandyGirlXO]

I feel like I'm the only person that wants to have one love. Sure I've had other crushes and enjoyed going out with other girls. But I just don't want to ever love more than one person.

 

Whenever someone says, oh you'll find someone else and you wont even remember your ex. It really gets to me, because I don't want to be like that. I know a lot of people who breakup feel that they can't be with someone else but it feels much more deep-rooted than that. Like I have a moral objection to it. So much so that I feel almost that I've been cheated out of it by having this relationship end.

 

I'm young and probably living in a fantasy world

 

InB4 So much of your life ahead of you and stuff.

 

 

No, you're not the only one. I want to only be and love with one person, but sometimes the one you love doesn't love you back. That is why they say you will find someone else.

 

You have no other choice but to move on, and find someone else that only wants to be with you.

 

It's hard after your first relationship to imagine yourself with someone else. But I am on my 4th serious relationship and it gets easier everytime to picture myself with someone else. But yes, I always remember my exes.

[a_f_w]

I feel like I'm the only person that wants to have one love. Sure I've had other crushes and enjoyed going out with other girls. But I just don't want to ever love more than one person.

 

Whenever someone says, oh you'll find someone else and you wont even remember your ex. It really gets to me, because I don't want to be like that. I know a lot of people who breakup feel that they can't be with someone else but it feels much more deep-rooted than that. Like I have a moral objection to it. So much so that I feel almost that I've been cheated out of it by having this relationship end.

 

I'm young and probably living in a fantasy world

 

InB4 So much of your life ahead of you and stuff.

 

 

I'm the same. I'm 22, and male, by the way. I barely even spoke to another girl before I was 20 - certainly no relationship or anything. Then I was with my girlfriend for two years and a bit, we were each other's first, and I found it a really attractive idea to stay with her forever. I knew how rare it was, and I believed that mostly people don't stay with their first love because of immaturity and a misunderstanding of what else might be available to them.

Unfortunately she didn't have those kind of views, and wanted to try other men.

I think those feelings I had/have are probably restrictive ones. I feel the same about other things. I was a virgin until I was 20, and like I said I'd never even touched a girl - and at first I really regretted losing that part of my character. I like to keep things how they are, I get attached to all kinds of things.

If my last girlfriend and I had met in five or ten years time, I bet we'd have stayed together forever. But she is young, and I might say emotionally immature, and so did not want to commit to anything at this stage.

 

I don't feel too bad about it, because I know I will get over it. At one time or another I've changed all sorts of things in my life, of course - done things I liked never having done before, or stopped doing things I felt compelled to keep doing... And this will fall away as well. I just need to jump in at the deep end and break the habit, I suppose. Now all I need is another girl, hmm...

[birdie]

I feel like I'm the only person that wants to have one love. Sure I've had other crushes and enjoyed going out with other girls. But I just don't want to ever love more than one person.

 

Whenever someone says, oh you'll find someone else and you wont even remember your ex. It really gets to me, because I don't want to be like that. I know a lot of people who breakup feel that they can't be with someone else but it feels much more deep-rooted than that. Like I have a moral objection to it. So much so that I feel almost that I've been cheated out of it by having this relationship end.

 

I'm young and probably living in a fantasy world

 

InB4 So much of your life ahead of you and stuff.

 

it's called innocence. yes unfortunately you will lose it eventually and will be seasoned at dealing with broken dreams like the rest of us

[Weird]

You're not the only one. I felt the exact way you did years ago and still feel similar now but sadly this is the real world and the nice idea of one love forever rarely happens. I envy those who find someone when they're young, stay with them and have the one love forever thing. To me it is much better than having 965953 relationships where the care/novelty cheapens each time and you just become desensitized to it all.

[Trialbyfire]

While it would be lovely to love only one person in a lifetime, it's rarely the case. There's no such thing as soulmate or "the one". You'll find that there are enough people who you'll fall in love with, as you age. Each love will be different, some better, some worse.

 

Ultimately, love is a choice and an action.

[voldigicam]

How does anyone stop loving someone?

 

I have to say I still love my ex wife. Haven't seen her in years. Look up what she's doing online sometimes. We were together for 15 years. Our own internal blowups drew us apart. Although we continued to cooperate and work together at times and enjoyed it. I really should stop by and visit her.

 

We both did "science" and worked together fabulously in field and lab. It was when our careers matured and we actually had to live together in the usual world that things came unraveled. But I still every now and then remember the 17 year old dark haired slavic beauty walking into my young life. I remember proposing in a car overlooking a stunning valley out west. Making love in desert.

 

See, started me crying.

 

But that doesn't mean that I don't love my wife now. I told her I had this wave of missing my ex. No biggie. Got a long hug and everything is better. Stuff just sticks, and love is one of those things. I have to wonder whether I ever really loved the ones I don't have feelings for still.