techfan Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Not sure exactly where to post this but i thought it worth mentioning even though it is a bit odd i must admit. As some of you may know i was recently broken up with after a 2 1/2 year relationship. The R wasn't bad but we lacked communication which was the problem. Anyway, I have been employing NC to get over her and today I decided to balance my checkbook as something to take my mind off the situation. While doing so i came to an odd but interesting/philosophical conclusion. Balancing your checkbook is in a way very similar to the way we handle breakups and life in general. I was sitting there looking at my current balance when this dawned on me. If anyone has a checkbook nearby take a look. You have your current balance now, which is kind of where you are in your life at the moment. One could also look at it as your current emotional status. Now if you look at the past and go a few pages back in your checkbook you'll see all sorts of deposits and withdrawls etc. You added some money here and spent it on something there. For most people there should be pages and pages of all these transactions. Depositing and spending/withdrawing. This is our past. This is what we did and how we were, and that is why we have the current money balance that we have, like it or not. Now some may have a higher balance than others but thats not the point. The point is we can look back at all our spending and savings and withdrawals and deposits all we want and say, "maybe if i didn't spend as much here, my balance would be higher." But thats worthless. Thats living in the past.... you can't change that. You're stuck with the current balance you have. Now obviously we've all have big withdrawals (bad times) and huge deposits (great times) in the past but analyzing our spending back then won't change our balance now. Our money has already been spent and saved as we determined or as someone else has determined as well. We are where we find ourselves. Now what we can do, and the only thing we can do is control our future transactions. We can take note of how we spent and saved in the past and now use that to better our current balance. Save more, deposit more. Obviously there will be tiny withdrawals and spending along the way, as well as big withdrawals too, thats life. So the only thing we can focus on is our actions now and in the future to help determine how to raise our overall balance. No need looking back saying "i wish i saved more here or there" you can't change that now. The only thing we can do now is control what we do in the future so we can start saving more and bringing our balances up to where we want them. So everyone, its gonna be tough but its time to start saving.
motive2002 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 I had a long distance relationship with my ex.. talk about breaking up AND trying to balance the checkbook! Airfare is so damn expensive. She still claims that she spent as much on airfare as I did. WRONG! Anyway.. if you're breaking up and still have a balance in your checkbook consider yourself lucky.
itsallmyfault Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 AWESOME!! F'n awesome way to look at it. You really came up with that by yourself? i love it. and motive... I hear ya!
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