Jack of Hearts Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Okay ladies, here's the deal. I'm interested in this girl, but I'm unsure about where I stand with her. Here's the scoop: We - Have mutual friends. See each other a few times a month on the weekends (with our mutual friends). Talk during the week through facebook. Get along very well. Flirt a lot. She - Is very touchy-feely (with guys and girls). Is very popular. Single. Conveys all of the 'usual' signs of interest to me (prolonged eye contact, hugs, cheek kisses, teasing, playing with her hair while we talk, holding hands, etc.) Is a free spirit, but not promiscuous. Buys me drinks. Has many male friends. Does NOT call me her 'best friend', 'buddy' or make any references to a 'brother/sister' relationship between us. Has a few other guys interested in her. I - Am into her. Flirt back. Am unsure whether or not the signs she's conveying are just her personality. Might have kissed her in a drunken haze, but it wasn't ever brought up and I wouldn't apologize for it anyway. Trying my hardest to stay clear of the friend zone. Am not sure if I'm already in it. So can anyone offer any advice about this flirty, touchy-feely girl that is throwing signs at me? Any lines in her behavior that I can look for to determine if the flirting is platonic or romantic?
MSUE Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Hmmmm... I don't treat my male friends like that...more than likely she is interested in you...How long have you known her for? Do you know anything about her last relationship? Have your mutual friends ever pointing something out (flirting, comments attraction)? anything along those lines?
Author Jack of Hearts Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 I've known her for little under a year. I know her last relationship was long term, ended about a year and a half ago and might not have ended on the best of terms. As far as the friends pointing anything out, they haven't. Atleast not to me, but they may think that she's just being her regular flirty self. One of the only differences that I'm picking up on is that she doesn't refer to me as a 'buddy' like the rest of her guy friends and our mutual friends. This may be something or it might not, but one of my biggest flaws is not being able to distinguish between platonic/romantic flirting.
MSUE Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Yea...it's hard to figure out... why don't you just ask her out just the 2 of you? doesn't need to sound like a date but maybe happy hour after work? or watch a game at a sports bar? If she likes sports...or just Starbucks and maybe you can get a better idea...since its just you guys...in any given case my dear if you like the chick go for it...do you have anything to lose?
Ariadne Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 So can anyone offer any advice about this flirty, touchy-feely girl that is throwing signs at me? Any lines in her behavior that I can look for to determine if the flirting is platonic or romantic? Seems like she is just being flirty because she gets tons of attention. Don't think you are anything special. The best thing is to try and get her tipsy again and make out, and see if you can start dating her. Good luck.
Author Jack of Hearts Posted March 27, 2009 Author Posted March 27, 2009 For an update on this one, you can read: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t184122/
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