Why relationship changes after years we been together

[baby karen]

Hi All,

 

 

im lost...im confused to decide should I continue the journey with him or should I find someone else, but I loved him very much…He is like my missing piece of puzzle in my heart. Me n my bf had been together for 7 and half year, why through all these years we been through, we hard times, good times, sadness, happy, crying…etc

What on earth that we are still hasn’t settled down? Is it im fear about marriage or he is fear about getting married. We have an argument the third day of CNY, where he told me that he couldn’t bring happiness for me in the future? What is that supposed to mean? Deep down in his heart he loved me a lot; he can care for me like a princess. But I can felt that he fear for commitment or burden, where he loved simple life as in easy working, easy income but not complicated. He doesn’t have that challenge like to make his life feel better with challenging needs for future prospects. But I do, for me ill go ahead if the earning wise is better than my current job. I won’t stay to a company too long where I can learn new things in life. My bf loves online games…he can even sit there for whole day just to play online games. But I will not wasting my time for that, maybe when im bored. Im really really lost…..like an abandoned puppy. I’m now staying with my bf for 5-6 months already. I’m not used to it when his mother speaks about marriage, feel like she is blaming me for the whole cause on wasting his son’s time. His mum asked me to decide if I want this relationship gets married fast, don’t waste time. But the main problem is our relationship is like floating in the sea. How to settle down?

Can anyone give me a guide or some advices ….. T_T

[Geishawhelk]

Everything changes.

Nothing ever stays the same.

My partner and I are aware we're not even the same people we were a month ago!

 

You are not the same person who met him all those years ago.

people evolve, mature, grow and somethimes they go their own different ways.

I think you and your BF have done that.

You have "grown" at different rates, and become different people. You seem to want different things and you don't connect any more.

 

It all depends whether you both believe this is worth working hard for, to rekindle, revitalise and re-awaken.

Unless you both feel the same way, you should go your different ways.

 

I'm sorry, but it really is that simple.

[Still Trying]

agreed. the longer you stay in it the rougher it will be. Be prepared for a LOT of healing time afterward too. It took me almost 2 years to get over my 5 year relationship. sorry, it sucks but you'll both be better in the long run