dontdoit Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 been with my boyfriend for 8 months , we have had plenty of sex, but he has never once ejaculates....................im confused, worried and dont know what to do !! i love him and he loves me, now im just paranoid....................HELP !!! PLEASE X:lmao:
burning 4 revenge Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Im sure he ejaculates when hes by himself I have this problem during vaginal sex and it turns out I have venous leak which also occasionally gives me ED so I hope that doesnt happen to him
Author dontdoit Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 not much really, says he enjoys it, says its not me. its really bothering me
Author dontdoit Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 he is only 33 . im used to men coming every time, never come across this before
fral945 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 That's odd. Does he have an orgasm (even though he doesn't ejaculate)?
nicki Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 yeah, that's the question: Is he having an orgasm and not ejaculating, or not orgasming at all? I had a boyfriend who could orgasm and not ejaculate. He had amazing control. He said he learned how to do it so he wouldn't make a mess when he masturbated. (Maybe all guys can do it, I don't know) For a long time, same boyfriend could only orgasm through oral sex, not vaginal sex. So another question might be, how does he best orgasm?
Gold Pile Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Depends: Once I had a mighty orgasm and was stunned (as was my girlfriend) to see that nothing came out. We were both quite satisfied and sex this way wouldn't be a bad thing. But it never happened again. On first dates I have for a few years taken ED pills to guarantee max enjoyment for her. Often this makes it very hard for me to climax. Is he taking pills? On subsequent dates I usually don't take such pills for just that reason. If you are both enjoying the sex just be happy.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 This is called "Retarded Ejaculation" and could be the symptom of actual medical conditions such as diabetes, nerve damage, prostate disease, alcohol abuse, prescription drugs (such as betablockers or antidepressants). It could also have psychological foundations: It could be that he's a perfectionist. Or that he's scared to lose control. He might maybe be worried that he's not a good lover. Perhaps deep down, he believes sex is wrong. Or quite simply, it's that he's distracted. By the way, I got all of this info from a Medical site, but I can't provide the link, because it's commercial.... Google 'orgasm but no ejaculation' and see what happens..... My partner used to have the same problem. But since his diagnosis recently as a type II diabetic, things have improved.....
Enema Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 What about when you give him blowjobs / handjobs? Or, when he's giving you a facial?
Green Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 first off have you asked him about it? Maybe it will make you feel better to know he's had this problem with all his partners and its not just you. For me when I first started having sex it was imposible for me to orgasm then I just figured it out
zenith Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 This is called "Retarded Ejaculation" and could be the symptom of actual medical conditions such as diabetes, nerve damage, prostate disease, alcohol abuse, prescription drugs (such as betablockers or antidepressants). It could also have psychological foundations: It could be that he's a perfectionist. Or that he's scared to lose control. He might maybe be worried that he's not a good lover. Perhaps deep down, he believes sex is wrong. Or quite simply, it's that he's distracted. Beta blocker... Also known as delayed ejaculation... does he not ejaculate at all? or is it only when he is having sex? He may want to see a urologist... depending on how severe it is
burning 4 revenge Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Theres retrograde ejaculation where the guy ejaculates internally but retarded ejaculation is kind of a misnomer because it focuses on the delay in ejaculation which is a symptom as opposed to a root problem
gopher Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Another option is that he may masturbate in the face down position( rubbing against the sheet or whatever) and there is not as much friction as he is used to....I read something somewhere about this.
johan Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Why would you want him to anyway? It's disgusting. Count your blessings.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Why would you want him to anyway? It's disgusting. Count your blessings. I wish id had your wit in my last relationship
Sears Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 been with my boyfriend for 8 months , we have had plenty of sex, but he has never once ejaculates....................im confused, worried and dont know what to do !! i love him and he loves me, now im just paranoid....................HELP !!! PLEASE X:lmao: Your boyfriend may simply have his thing "hand trained" meaning he wanks or has wanked a lot making it harder to do his thing during vaginal sex or even oral without finishing things himself. If this is the case and it's possible, its not you. I would lay back and enjoy the multiples he's capable of giving you. Believe me, he's getting a lot out of it whether he blasts off or not.
chris250 Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 been with my boyfriend for 8 months , we have had plenty of sex, but he has never once ejaculates....................im confused, worried and dont know what to do !! i love him and he loves me, now im just paranoid....................HELP !!! PLEASE X:lmao: It's not your problem. Don't worry about it. I hardly ever ejaculated when I had sex 6 years ago. It's his problem to deal with.
Still Trying Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 I have trouble coming in certain positions. After 8 months I'm guess you've tried them all though...
2sure Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 My H does and always has masturbated a lot, and like a previous poster said -thats just what hes used to, so he usually doesnt get off during intercourse or oral. But there are several things you can do - a hand job after sex almost always works or just watch him do it himself, guys love that. If his issue is more in his head - it will also make him more comfortable with the whole thing.
Author dontdoit Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 Your boyfriend may simply have his thing "hand trained" meaning he wanks or has wanked a lot making it harder to do his thing during vaginal sex or even oral without finishing things himself. If this is the case and it's possible, its not you. I would lay back and enjoy the multiples he's capable of giving you. Believe me, he's getting a lot out of it whether he blasts off or not. yes that could be it, i will talk to him about it also i always have to be on top, ????? when he is on top his penis goes soft.......so confused, never had any of these problems before
Author dontdoit Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 So what does he have to say about it? says it is not me and he enjoys te sex, but can tell he does not want to talk about it , its very difficult for me
Sears Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 says it is not me and he enjoys te sex, but can tell he does not want to talk about it , its very difficult for me He's most likely telling you the truth about enjoying the sex. My enjoyment comes from getting a woman "there" and the ride rather than the blast off. It's also possible he may have a few fetish things in his mind hence the you on top thing. Try not to take it personal, it's his thing not you and a reflection of your abilities. Try on the sly to bring out what he's into. He could be into a little domination thing.
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