What's the importance of ethics in your relationships?

[DayDreamer75]

Today I was in a company car with a colleague of mine going to a customer meeting. This colleague also happens to be a good friend of mine. While he was parking he bumped into another car which was parked in the parking lot. I told him to leave his phone number so that the poor owner of the damaged car would call him back once he saw the issues with his car.

 

He followed my suggestion and left the phone number on the car. However after about 5 minutes he was explicitly irritated with me cause I had suggested he leave his contact information to allow the poor owner of the other car have his car fixed. He kept saying that he should have just walked off cause maybe now this guy is gonna say that we caused more damages to his car than we really did and that he's got such a busy schedule that now he has to accomodate even this BS and so on and so on...

 

Well, I told him that he should be proud that he did the right thing so that he may set an example for those people who hit and run and don't do an ethical thing. He got even angrier with me...

 

I am really upset. I am still convinced that I did the right thing urging him to do this. Ethics is important to me and I don't care whether others do the right thing. It's important for me that I do the right thing and people around me do the right thing.

 

When we separated after the customer meeting, he was still seriously upset with me. I did not say anything but it bothers me deeply. I am very upset.

 

How important ethics are to you?

 

Thanks

[not_a_happy_camper]

very important.

 

But this guy should not be angry at you. You are the bigger person. You told him what you would do. He didn't have to listen. But he did. If he should be angry at anyone, it should be himself. And not for leaving his number..................but for bumping the car in the first place.

[Geishawhelk]

He should also have taken photos with his mobile 'phone and left a note saying he had done so, in order to prevent 'fraud' later.

being mad at you for his own lack of ethics is just dumb. he was actually probably getting more and more angry, because he was also increasingly mad at himself for being mad at you.....

 

you did exactly the right thing.

And - FWIW - had I been with you - you wouldn't even have

needed to tell me to do anything. I'd have done it as a matter of course.

[DayDreamer75]

thanks to both of you for your encouraging feedback:)