stovepipe Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 My ex and I have been talking again. She wants to remain friends and I'm doing my best to do it. Recently I went to the doctor due wanting to go on depression meds. While there they noticed my heart was beating irregularly due to stress most likely. They put me on a 24 hour heart monitor. She found out from a friend. She came into work and while I was at my desk hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. Later that day she asked me to go to lunch with her. She held me on the drive and when we stopped kissed me over and over. Said she loved me. Later that day she came back to my house because she took too many anxiety meds and needed to sleep. She asked me to hold her. She said she loved me a few more times and she loved when I held her. After a few hour nap she went home. After that we talked but nothing. The friend thing is hard I hear her talk about looking for other guys to people. I'm just confused.
Yamaha Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 She wants to keep you around for her. It helps her guilt at ending your relationship and because I'm sure she does care about you. The problem is she doesn't want maore than friends and you probably still have feelings for her. It won't work until you no longer want to be with her as a lover. Do yourself a favor and tell her you can't be her friend now. If she really wants to be friends she will respect your decision. You need to think of yourself and heal so you can be her friend in the future ( if that is what you want ).
Ronni_W Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I agree with Yamaha -- she is acting in ways that help minimize her own guilt over any role she played in your stress-related health issues. She is acting in ways to facilitate her own better feelings, with little, if any, regard to how her current actions may impact you. And I agree with Yamaha -- do what you have to do to facilitate your own better feelings. If she has your well-being in heart, she will understand and appreciate your position. If she does not, then that's your answer, too. Wishing you clarity from your confusion, and good health.
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