ImThinkingWTF Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Ok, so ive had a sort of up and down rollercoaster sort of relationship with this guy. We have been dating since Jan of 2008. But, he is not my boyfriend. Hes 26 and has never been in a serious relationship. Hes had long relationships but, hes never called anyone his gf. His reason is that he only dates girls he thinks he could marry. I have a kid and he told me that if I didnt have a kid that our relationship would be a lot further progressed than it is. We just moved across country together. As of right now we are staying at my dads house because he is never there. (he also has a house in another state). This guy has also told me he loves me and that he isnt going anywhere to just give him time. He has never, to my knowledge, "cheated" on me. At one time, for like a month, he was my boyfriend but, I think he got scared. The night before we left to drive across country he said that he wanted to be able to date other girls and of course that upset me because I (at that time) was not interested in other guys. The next day he told me that he was just upset with me (we had been arguing, which we never do. Moves are stressful) and that he doesnt want to date other girls. So i guess my question is...is this something that is normal? Am I wasting my time...because, I mean its already been a year and still no commitment. Not only that but, I cant change the fact that I have a kid. I think he is trying to get used to the idea, and he gets along great with her. but i think sometimes people get this image in their head of what their ideal relationship would be and its hard to get away from that. I think he is trying but....I dont know...is it worth it?
infophreak Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I'd give him three strikes on the wanting to date other girls claim... anything abused starts a path of disfunction, he quickly said he was sorry this time so take him at his word and give him time. As long as he is never any but like a father to the child and treats the child as a father would, then there are no problems.. but he needs to accept your a package deal and show that he is willing to commit to you and the child, regardless of what the title of it all is.
AlektraClementine Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 You're wasting your time and your child's time. He's sounds like an ass. Let me tell you something. I have a child as well and I'll be damned if I let some man tell me that if it weren't for my precious wonderful little child, that we'd be further along? Are you serious? Why didn't you get rid of him then??? Lemme guess, you love him. ugh.
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