Mikey808 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I took a girl out for our first date last weekend, and to me the date went well. She laughed, smiled, twirled her hair, and by the end of the date seemed very comfortable. One thing I was lost on was she had a hard time making eye contact, I don't think I was creeping her out, but more like nervous. She even told me she was nervous, I assured she had no reason to be. We had a nice dinner, and then we drove around in my truck for 2 hours talking, she was having some hard times with her best friend, and I figured I'd let her get her worries out. In the process of telling me her story, she asks if I want to hear it all because it's long, and brings up her ex boyfriend and how much of an jerk he was. I am kinda thrown off by this, and have been told to worry when she mentions her ex, but I did agree to listen and he was a piece of the story she couldn't have left out. I dropped her off, a nice hug, and she told me to give her a call the weekend or something. The next day she texted me telling me she was going to the mall with her friend whom she is fighting with. We talked for a minute and I asked if she was up for another adventure soon. She responded with a of course we can and that it would be fabulous! I told herto give me a call when she would like and that we would figure something out. I hadent heard from her for a few days so I decided to send her a text to see how her day went, and then proceeded to ask her to go out to watch a basketball game on thursday night, she is a huge sports fan, but she said she already has plans. I said it was alright, and if she was still interested in a second date to give me a ring. She said she would call me the weekend, and she would love to watch a game with me another time. Sorry that was so long, but I am not sure how to take it. Does she seem like she is interested? I am lost right now, lol. Thanks, Mikey
crfsti Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 It's hard to say, but i have a really hard time reading women so i might not be much help lol. in your case i think there is still hope, just give it some time and if she doesn't call you, call her and try to set something up again. good luck!
turnshyness Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Don't chase. Give her some space and let her think about you..if that make sense? Since the ball is on her court..you just have to learn to be patient and let her give you a call. It's scarcity...the more you give to her the more mostly like she won't want it but if you're not there and you're not giving her too much then she'll think abt you. Plus you've given her so many rings anyways. If she doesnt give you a call back then move on. It wasnt meant to be. I took a girl out for our first date last weekend, and to me the date went well. She laughed, smiled, twirled her hair, and by the end of the date seemed very comfortable. One thing I was lost on was she had a hard time making eye contact, I don't think I was creeping her out, but more like nervous. She even told me she was nervous, I assured she had no reason to be. We had a nice dinner, and then we drove around in my truck for 2 hours talking, she was having some hard times with her best friend, and I figured I'd let her get her worries out. In the process of telling me her story, she asks if I want to hear it all because it's long, and brings up her ex boyfriend and how much of an jerk he was. I am kinda thrown off by this, and have been told to worry when she mentions her ex, but I did agree to listen and he was a piece of the story she couldn't have left out. I dropped her off, a nice hug, and she told me to give her a call the weekend or something. The next day she texted me telling me she was going to the mall with her friend whom she is fighting with. We talked for a minute and I asked if she was up for another adventure soon. She responded with a of course we can and that it would be fabulous! I told herto give me a call when she would like and that we would figure something out. I hadent heard from her for a few days so I decided to send her a text to see how her day went, and then proceeded to ask her to go out to watch a basketball game on thursday night, she is a huge sports fan, but she said she already has plans. I said it was alright, and if she was still interested in a second date to give me a ring. She said she would call me the weekend, and she would love to watch a game with me another time. Sorry that was so long, but I am not sure how to take it. Does she seem like she is interested? I am lost right now, lol. Thanks, Mikey
bean1 Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 I think anyone who talks about their ex on the first date (or even the first few) is a big red NO! Talk about bringing up baggage! If someone needs to talk about their exes on the first(!) date, I would consider that a "job interview fail". Girls talking about exes from the get-go = drama! (and guys too). OP I'd say no to this one: and that's my honest opinion as a woman!
socialight Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 in my experience, if you ask a girl out, and the answer is not an unequivical "yes", then the answer is "no". Female perspective would be interesting here.
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