Girlygirl1977 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I had dinner with an ex last night. We meet from time to time, usually with his initiation. so i dated him from when i was 23 to 26 for 2.5 yrs. so i've known him for 9 years now but we haven't had this honest discussion before. i've honestly avoided it. i guess he was my first serious relationship and i wanted to make sure i saw what else was out there. i have always still cared for him as a person. I'm 31 now and he is 33. He was alluding to many of our earlier days - great memory and made me sentimental. We discussed why we broke up etc. and he said who knows if i never left ny we could have been married etc. We broke up b/c first we worked together and then i became long distance cross country. we have since not been back in the same city till about a couple of years ago. We both have been ambitious so leading parallel lives. I have had a long relationship since then and he said he has dated max 2-3 months since. i asked if he had regrets - for me i said i think since it was first long relationship it was best that it ended b/c then you might think what else is out there. i asked him if he would date me again and he said "of course" and then we held hands at the table. we were at restaurant from 8 to midnight. he kissed me at end. anyway - i have resisted being nice b/c i knew this could be the next thing. I decided to bring it up b/c a friend told me - closed mouths don’t get fed. He said he's like the last of his friends not to be married. He mentioned a couple of times I was his longest relationship. So I feel like I had to say something given his plans to move (he can work on his own doing what he does now but could have lower costs in philly area (1.5 hrs away, where his mom, sis and her family, and two very good friends live - right now in ny many of his best friends moved recently). What do you think about this scenario?
infophreak Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Worth trying, but you may have found that you have changed in other ways that would keep you from being together. Make sure to take things slow and start over as if you didn't know each other at all.
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