DollWelch Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Man spurts out to a woman: "You have the most gorgeous set of fingers and fingernails." They've only known each other for less than a month. And, taking into account that the woman doesn't have gorgeous hands/fingers by any means. Would YOU take this as a compliment or an insult? Please comment as I would like to know if this is purely odd, or completely reeks of insecurity or a combination of other traits.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Maybe he was just fumbling for a compliment and that's all he could come up with. That is strange, though. LOL
runner Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 i've only ever heard gay men comment on "gorgeous" nails. you might want to ask him to expound on it
joh2141 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Hm. In truth, I've never heard a straight man say the word gorgeous unless they were thirty and over. Usually they would say "You're beautiful." And why comment on fingernails and fingers when you can compliment on the woman herself. Or things you know she likes to enunciate. But if a guy who compliments you on something you think is a lie, the guy probably IS gay or clueless and unsure on how to approach someone they like.
tanbark813 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 It's odd but only a woman would complain about a harmless compliment.
amaysngrace Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I think it's nice he noticed. My BF hardly ever notices my nails. I usually have to point them out to him.
Trialbyfire Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Attractiveness is subjective. What one person views as not that great, can inspire a man to heights! :laugh:
dreamergrl Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I was on a metro bus once, and sitting next to my boyfriend at the time, a man taps me on my shoulder. I turn around. Man: Would you hate me if I told you something. Me: Just stares at him, a bit frightened. Man: Would you just hate me, if I said this, but you have the most beautiful eyelashes I have ever seen. Me: Just stares at him with a blank face. Man: Don't hate me because I love men. Me: Finds another seat.
tincanman99 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Man spurts out to a woman: "You have the most gorgeous set of fingers and fingernails." They've only known each other for less than a month. And, taking into account that the woman doesn't have gorgeous hands/fingers by any means. Would YOU take this as a compliment or an insult? Please comment as I would like to know if this is purely odd, or completely reeks of insecurity or a combination of other traits. Its odd but hardly insulting. I like the comment about insecurity or combination of other traits. Thats a nice touch . Where would you get that from ? This is why guys dont say anything, you cant win .
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I have rather small hands. A couple of years ago I dated a man who I had known casually from the neighborhood. We were out on the 2nd or 3rd date and he started talking about how he loved my hands, and how my hands were one of the first things he noticed about me. Really?? Before the 36D chest? hmmm....
tanbark813 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 my hands were one of the first things he noticed about me. Really?? Before the 36D chest? hmmm.... That is what is known as a little white lie.
Star Gazer Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 A good friend of mine's girlfriend has the most beautiful fingers and fingernail beds. I honestly can't stop staring at her hands when I see her. I'm envious. She should honestly be a hand model. So no, I wouldn't think that's a weird compliment at all.
lance.dark Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 I don't think it's that weird. While hands aren't the first thing I notice, I do pay attention to them.
Author DollWelch Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 I do think it is a harmless piece of compliment (i.e. if you see it this way). I'm somewhat flattered by the compliment but I can't deviate away from viewing it as an insult -if not, a minor insult. To me, it almost feels like an ill-natured joke. I used to attend an event where this man frequently attended as well. I met him there for the first time, even though we have mutual friends in common, I'm not friends with him. Merely an acquaintance. It's weird, because he has a girlfriend whom I also know, and I don't see him ravishing his girlfriend, instead he's complimenting other women. And, no, I don't think he's gay.
MN randomguy Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Maybe he was just fumbling for a compliment and that's all he could come up with. That is strange, though. LOL It's odd but only a woman would complain about a harmless compliment. +1 So he's not exactly Rico-Suave. But, he likes you, probably thinks you've got a great rack. Thought that commenting on your nails was more socially acceptable. Guess he was wrong.
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