singlelife Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 One of my great female fwb is really close to me. We are soo compatible. Well she has a bf who she has been chasing all last year. I really like the dude and we get along great. Anyway we are not fwb anymore but extremely close. Well I now have a new fwb who is just as close to me as my other friend (crazy how we get along so swell). Well my former fwb doesn't like her and said she didn't want her around her or any of her friends. I told her we need to squash this because she is going to be around me as I care for her and she didn't do anything. I told my new fwb and she is so hurt because we all got along and now she doesn't want anything to do with the other girl at all. My question is this. What happened. My old fwb emails me sometimes and says she misses me and wants to hang out and she is sorry about us spending less time. I keep telling her it is not a problem as she has a bf and she should spend her time with him. She says she misses all of our fun. When we go out ( we hang at the same hot spots) I am always dancing with new people and socializing as that is who I am. Her bf is intraverted and noone thinks he is super excpet her because she loves him. My roomate says she likes me more than she says not in love with me like her bf but she was trying to play the middle. I don't see this but help me out. Is this what's up or not.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I know you feel you're in the middle, but you're not. Their issues are their issues. This is their problem, not yours. Who you see and what you do is for you and your conscience to deal with. What they do is up to them. Your ex fwb has a BF. If she's having regrets about that, or is dissatisfied, that too, is for her to work out with him. Don't poke your nose in.... Stick to your guns, and don't get embroiled in female petty issues, whatever they might be.
Author singlelife Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 It's confusing and bizarre. Any female perspectives out there. Help a dude out.
Author singlelife Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 Thanks. Well that helps. I think it is weird too. I appreciate it. I hope to get some more opinions as well Geisha but now I miss my old friend because she is being distant.
Geishawhelk Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 She's not being distant because of you, she's being distant because (1) she has a BF, and (2) she doesn't like your current FwB. So you both have choices about whether to stick with whom you have, or ditch your respective SOs and hitch up again. It couldn't be simpler.
Author singlelife Posted January 30, 2009 Author Posted January 30, 2009 ok gotcha, i was just wondering. i am not making a choice i am fine maybe you are right
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