likestolaugh Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 ok, so I didn't used to have acne prone skin... some on my face, but nothing horrible. This summer I got pretty badly sunburned on my back and chest... and since then I've been experiencing acne breakout in those places too (more on back than chest). It's really quite annoying... to be 23 and have this start now. Anyway, as my recent threads indicate I'm seeing this girl... and things are going well. I sense it will soon be time to get much more intimate in the bed zone... but in all honestly I'm terrified to let her know of what's going on with my skin. I'm actively trying to get rid of it, but it's not working so well yet... much of what I have is scarring now... but I do get new flareups farely frequently. How can I explain this to her without freaking her out (she's a good person, but you can never know for sure)? She has basically PERFECT skin (and oh so smooth!)... I'd like to tell her that it's a recent development and that I'm trying to deal with it... but I don't know if that's enough. I haven't been intimate with anyone since this struck at the end of the summer...
Isolde Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I wouldn't care. Everyone is human and prone to these sorts of things.
dashing daisy Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I don't really think you need to explain. Unless she asks, which I don't think she will. A lot of people have some acne or scarring on their back, it's not really that big of a deal.
Author likestolaugh Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 well I guess I just don't want to disappoint her in this department. I feel that explaining it would help her understand that I don't have it because of a hygiene issue (which as I've found out, it's something many people who never had the problem seem to think. And as far as I can tell by looking at her... she's never had the problem).
Miss Ting Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 LOL...thanks for the laugh. I wasn't expecting that one. Don't worry...I HIGHLY doubt that she'll care. Don't be so insecure. Good luck with everything!
dashing daisy Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 People think acne is because of a hygiene problem? If you guys are getting up close and personal, and you are clean and smell good, she'll know you don't have a hygiene problem. I get that you like her and want to impress her - but if you've gotten to this level, you already have. Just relax, and enjoy.
sultry33 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 well I guess I just don't want to disappoint her in this department. I feel that explaining it would help her understand that I don't have it because of a hygiene issue (which as I've found out, it's something many people who never had the problem seem to think. And as far as I can tell by looking at her... she's never had the problem). hi i can totally relate to this.. for me humour has worked but i get a abcess or a boil watever you want to call them they just appear here an there, sometimes nothing for months then bam i get one. Whilst its painful and i can get ill its more like a physical yuk for me:sick: i have been dating this guy and seems to be going well was intimate for the 1st time couple weekends ago and i was fine..tiny pimple on my tummy .. fast forward to end of last week im a pus bucket:sick: i told him i couldnt see him as i was unwell .. infact i had to stay in bed as i could barely walk.. or bend down! i told him i was a pus bucket eww:D:lmao: now its burst and i have a hole in my stomac.. how gross is that. i hate this but my advice would be to mention it ... like yourself its not hygene related for me its to do with my blood/mood/food..... In a steady rs its soo much better:love:
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I don't really think you need to explain. Unless she asks, which I don't think she will. Agreed! Just outright explaining it without her asking indicates you are self-conscious about it. And I really don't think it's that big of a deal. If she asks, then explain. Have you seen a dermatologist about this? He/she might be able to help you clear it up.
Author likestolaugh Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 Agreed! Just outright explaining it without her asking indicates you are self-conscious about it. And I really don't think it's that big of a deal. If she asks, then explain. Have you seen a dermatologist about this? He/she might be able to help you clear it up. yeah, I've seen a doc... he suggested some stuff that would have had side effects that I'm not interested in. So I've tried other ways...
Author likestolaugh Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 so I just shouldn't say anything then? It's not like she won't wonder though.. that's only normal...
MSUE Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Don't stress it!!! My boyfriend gets a good amount of breakouts often on his back and I still think he's the hottest thing!!! It never bothered me it's not like I'm going to stop in the middle of sex and be like hey where'd that come from? We are humans!!!
ColorCube Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Relax, It will give her something to pop on your back, Women have this thing for popping zits on a man's back or mashing the blackheads.
Jersey Shortie Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 First, don't freak out. Women aren't that judgemental. Second, exfoliate. This will help. Third, visit a dermatologist if it bothers you that much.
Still Trying Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Relax, It will give her something to pop on your back, Women have this thing for popping zits on a man's back or mashing the blackheads. so true, wtf is it with this? OP, once again don't sweat it. I've dealt with much more embarrassing things than acne on a first bedroom date. How about a lovely case of ring worm? That's some good times right there! And yes, she noticed it.
chrislovestosurf Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 if you think thats bad then try explaining to somebody that you cant even get close to them because of a cold sore, which is a type of herpes, which can also be spread to them for life, which can also be spread to their genitalia!! Quite embarrassing when you meet someone new who has never had the virus and knows nothing about it. Compound that by the fact that you cant kiss them for like a week or more after the sores show on your face.
jen's mind Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 No matter what anyone says, body acne is a huge source of embarrassment and irritation for the sufferer. Dermatologists can rarely solve these problems, despite a plethora of pharmacological resources. You're smart to avoid poisoning yourself with their drugs. Mario Badescu is a skin spa in NYC... they make they most effective stuff in the world for acne. Do yourself a favor and get on their website and order "Special Cleansing Lotion O"... your skin will be on the road to recovery within days. Speaking from experience!
prettybaby Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Dude, don't mention anything. You don't have anything to explain. Act like you don't care, and she probably won't either.
2sure Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Acne is one thing and pimples another. Since your face is fairly clear it sounds like you have pimples. Also since your face is fairly clear - whatever cleansing process you do on your face you should also do on your back and chest. If you arent doing anything special to your face to keep it clear try this: Buy ANY drugstore brand MASK for acne. Neutrogena , Clear Skin, whatever. Wash the area and when DRY apply the mask overnight. (2/3X /wk)This should clear it up without a lot of fuss or expense. Guys just dont know this stuff. If it truly is Acne - I dont know!
jen's mind Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Apologies for running afoul of the rules... I shouldn't have included the link to the site. The stuff does work, though. DEFINITELY do not say anything.... why shine a spotlight on something that she might not even notice in the first place? You're feeling like you have to make excuses... you don't. Just be.
Lucky_One Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Relax, It will give her something to pop on your back, Women have this thing for popping zits on a man's back or mashing the blackheads. OH GROSS!! EWWWWW!!
Author likestolaugh Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 I second the above sentiment, lol. 2sure... well, I used to have it worse on my face... but it's gotten a lot better over the past couple years. I would say it's acne (on my back). And yeah, I've tried a lot of that stuff... it doesn't really help, sadly. Jen, I took a look at the site... it looks good, but the only thing is it's expensive... and I'm in Canada, which makes it even more expensive to ship here and so on... Anyway, I was recently told about zinc tablets... I started taking those this week... I hope that'll do something. ....and I really don't see how she 'might not even notice'... unless she's blind...
Author likestolaugh Posted February 6, 2009 Author Posted February 6, 2009 dammit. She stayed over at my place, we slept in the same bed... but nothing more than lots of kissing and such... I didn't take my shirt off. I'll have to do it next time
popey Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 How about a distraction? Get yourself so worked up that you have premature ejaculation. Bet that will totally diffuse the skin issue in both your minds! Seriously, I understand how you feel, but I wouldn't say anything. Chances are she has something about her naked self that concerns her too. Confidence is sexier than perfect skin anyway.
Isolde Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 You seriously need to relax. I have seen guys with pretty serious acne on their FACE and still thought they were attractive.
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