Blackberries Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Hi all, I am wondering if anyone can give me some advice. I recently met a friend of a friend who I am very attracted to.I am just out of a long relationship so I am a little out of practise at the dating game!The first time I met this guy was when I went to a club with my friends and we were all dancing in a group. We were all drunk and having a great time. However the next night we all went out I had to introduce myself to him because he couldn't remember me from the first night :(When I talk to this guy, he is friendly. He teases me and I tease him. He is lots of fun. He even playfully touched my forearm one night and I pinched him back (he pulled away the second time I tried to do it) I added him on MySpace and he accepted and the other night I started IM'ing him. He was in the middle of writing an essay (he's studying English) but he chatted to me for about an hour and when I asked was I distracting him he said it was ok. Then he said he was just going to store for a while but when he came back online he didn't resume our conversation. However I think he was trying to get the essay done because it was due the next day.In real life, when we talk, the conversations are always initiated by me. We have been on nights out with our friends and we could both be sitting not talking to anyone but he won't come over to me, I have to go over to him. Because of this I am beginning to feel really stupid and like I am making a fool of myself and he will think I'm easy.Do you think he likes me?
Trialbyfire Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 If what you're doing isn't working, it's best to try something else or move on. Stop initiating...period. If the guy likes you, he'll start to initiate contact, if he prefers to pursue. If he's not interested, he'll just fade away.
theniceguy Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I think he's not really looking for anything right now. I think that taking things slow would be a good step. Hang out, see where it goes. Over-analyzing things makes us feel worse than we should feel. Just take things for what they are. Maybe he doesn't like being pinched. I know I don't. People get busy and aren't always able to get back to us right away. Some people are just chill and don't go out of their way to talk to someone. It doesn't mean that they don't like you and it doesn't mean that they do. It just means that they are comfortable enough with who they are that they don't feel they really have to do anything. If he didn't enjoy spending time with you, talking to you, or giving you the time of day, then he probably wouldn't. So, take things for what they are and live life in the here and now. If things happen, great. If they don't, move on. Don't give more of yourself than you feel you should. Keep yourself guarded until he gives more of himself. Don't regret anything you do. If all you did was meet a great person and took time to get to know them, then it was worth it.
Author Blackberries Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 I think I'll just give up... what's the point in trying when I'll probably just be disappointed..
Author Blackberries Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 I just noticed something on my MySpace.. I recently got my exam results and I had failed one, which I wasn't happy about. I have a blog where I post up jokes I like. He replied to it with a joke about people who fail exams in college. I think this is an obvious diss so I guess he's being mean. As far as I know he is coming out with our group to a party this weekend- I will be sure to keep my distance...
Author Blackberries Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 *bump* has anyone got any more advice on this? need help
theniceguy Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Try to take things for what they are. Don't over-analyze. You failed an exam. He made a joke about failing an exam. He's still talking to you and making light of sad situation. Take things for what they are.
D-Lish Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I just noticed something on my MySpace.. I recently got my exam results and I had failed one, which I wasn't happy about. I have a blog where I post up jokes I like. He replied to it with a joke about people who fail exams in college. I think this is an obvious diss so I guess he's being mean. As far as I know he is coming out with our group to a party this weekend- I will be sure to keep my distance... I doubt it was a diss. He was probably trying to be funny and didn't realize the joke might be offensive. As it stands now- it looks like he is viewing this as a friendship. It's too difficult to say without seeing the two of you interact. I agree with TBF- stop initiating. Let him pursue. If he's interested, he'll let it be known. If he's not interested in that kind of way- then it's best you know so you can move on with someone else. Is he shy or something? Does he seem to have confidence approaching women in general from what you have observed? Does he know you like him? Have others alerted him of your crush? So far, you've done all the reaching out...so pull back from that and see how he reacts.
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