andrewrost3241981 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I haven't been on a date before, but I feel that when I do finally find a girl and go on a date with her, and once our dating becomes serious enough that I will want to show her as much affection (hugging, holding hands, petting, kissing, small gifts, telling her I love her, calling her pet names, etc) as I can. I am afraid though that I might want to do this too much and it might start to annoy her. How much of this affection can a woman stand before it starts to annoy her? I guess it really depends on each individual woman and once I do start dating I should probably just ask her how much she thinks is too much, but I just wanted to see what other women think so that I can be prepared and have some idea of how much affection I should be showing. I would appreciate any opinions (especially those from a woman's perspective). Thanks.
sid3 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Although I'm not a woman, I'll give you some advice. Start small. and infrequently. You want it to be a surprise and something see as special, not having it become expected and overwhelming for her. Before you ccontemplate how often and what types of romantic things your going to do, wait and see how she treats you. Your bigest mistake would to come across as p*ssy whip. From what I can tell, most women don't really find needy, sappy, and clingy guys attractive. That's what will happen if you over do it. Moderation is key. Your always better showing up with some flowers out of the blue instead of after you've pissed her off and your trying to get her to forgive you. Good luck with that first date whenever it happens. Don't take it too seriously.
Jersey Shortie Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I think sid gave you good advice. For each woman it is going to be different though. It sounds like you already know enough to know that and even ask the question. Try to feel things out and see how receptive the woman you are dating is to any of the things you listed. But all in moderation and time.
RedRussian Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Don't forget to bring condoms with you and extra lube tube...incase she would want to use that too buddy. Good luck on the date!
Jersey Shortie Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 The only reason he is going to need lube is if he plans to lube up her finger to slide a big fat diamond on it.
Author andrewrost3241981 Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 I think you would be right Jersey:)
Tomcat33 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Andrew you sound like a dreamboat. Some of us women love all that affection and attention. In time you will have so much to give!! BUT not so fast my friend: Sid3's advice is BANG ON! Excellent points. When it comes to dating you have to hold back a little in the early stages and until you know where you stand with the other. Often people will say they hate games, but that's kind of foolish. Having a good balance and a fair amount of restraint so that you don't burn out quickly is good for the attraction to develop, it keeps the dating process exciting. Too much of ANYTHING too soon is not as appealing, we tend to value far more those things that don't come easily to us. I am not saying that things that come easily don't feel good, beacuse they can, but we value those things that we have to work a bit for. So don't give too much of yourself at first until you know what the girl's interest level is, speaking from experience we don't like to be smothered in the early stages, we like something left to the imagination and personally I like being kept on my toes when I am really attracted to a guy. As much as I hate not knowing exactly where I stand during those earlier days, I really love it too so long as he is consistent. Never underestimate women's intuition, you don't have to say it or show it all in order for us to know where you stand with us, your actions will speak much louder. The key to it is keep it consistent and stay true to your word, call when you say you will call, show up when you say you will meet her, and just do the kinds of things that will make you look like a gentleman as opposed to some confused flake. Having said that, too much affection before she is ready to reciprocate can kill it. You don't want to make her think that your entire life revolves around her yet (plenty of time for that downt he road ) that kills the attraction early on. Especially if she is a popular girl who is used to a lot of attention from men, she will respect you a LOT more if you are cool rather than too eager. It's all about balance. Here is the bottom line, whether you are female or male you don't want to feel like after two dates you have the other person tucked neatly in your back pocket, hook, line and sinker. BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORING!
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