dudemag Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 and she paid for my college tuition on her credit card a few months back, and she is threatening to sue me if i dont pay her back. there was no written agreement that i would pay her back. should i be worried?
troubadour Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Only if she can prove in the court of law that there was a verbal agreement between two of you that you would pay her back.
Author dudemag Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 verbal agreement? what the hell is that
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 pretty much if she has witnesses that were around when/if you said "yes i will pay you back for the college tuition" if thats the case your ****ed, otherwise dont worry about it. Also, what a bitch seriously.
Author dudemag Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 she is trying to get my brother and fiancee involved saying that "they guarunteed that i would pay her back" which is total BS. i did say i would pay her back, but BEFORE she dumped me for another guy
HEARTBROKENHURT Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 If it's not written on paper it don't mean jack! She will have to prove a verbal agreement was made and she can't do that so i wouldn't worry! Plus dude what a bitch. Sucks ass the sh-it we have to deal with, with these women.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Wrong. If he said he would pay her back when they were together, that's a verbal agreement. Simply because they have broken up, is no reason to not pay her back. If he intended to pay her back then, he should still intend to pay her back now. if he acknowleged it was a loan then, their change of circumstance doesn't mean suddenly, all debts are off. i did say i would pay her back, but BEFORE she dumped me for another guy This constitutes a contract. If she takes you to court - you WILL lose.
Author dudemag Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 i said i would do a lot of things and she also, that doesnt mean that we have to. i would think.
Citizen Erased Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 She was an idiot for putting it on her credit card. But really, take responsibility for your own finances. Do you expect everyone to pay your way?
jhiggins Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I would pay her back. Don't you feel obligated to do that? However, if she broke up with you for another guy, it's surprising if she thinks she is going to have an easy time getting the money back. Jonathan
lkjh Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Legally if she doesnt have it on paper it doesnt mean s***. But you should pay her back
New York Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 There is zero way she can collect on this so called debt. Every state in the union requires that contracts in excess of $500 be memorialized in writing. Trying to enforce on such an unwritten contract violates the statute of frauds. And she sounds like a jerk. That being said, I would consider paying her back if only to get her out of your life permanently so that you can move on and heal.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 i said i would do a lot of things and she also, that doesnt mean that we have to. i would think. If it involved finance, you are entitled to repayment, also. You cannot take payment for your student studies and not expect to pay it back. Nobody in their right minds would willingly pay that for you and consider it a gift. There's no backing out here. You owe her. Full stop. No judge will see it differently.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 There is zero way she can collect on this so called debt. Every state in the union requires that contracts in excess of $500 be memorialized in writing. Trying to enforce on such an unwritten contract violates the statute of frauds. And she sounds like a jerk. That being said, I would consider paying her back if only to get her out of your life permanently so that you can move on and heal. Not so. A verbal agreement has as much validity if agreed as any other. Simply because it's verbal may make it more difficult for her to collect. But not impossible. If you want a legal black mark against your name, you go right ahead and resist paying, that's fine, up to you, your choice. But if you want this hanging around your neck for that long, that's up to you. It would be by far the more decenty thing to off-load, get rid of it, and just pay it back. Also, your personal reputation is worth safe-guarding, isn't it?
jerbear Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Her claims will hold water in small claims court based on the amount. 1) Verbal agreement implied but you mentioned explicitly you would repay BEFORE the breakup. It is still an agreement. 2) She has proof that of a transaction and it is NOT her education 3) Ignorance is not an answer ("verbal agreement, what the hell is that"), BTW that has been used before and courts don't accept it.
BikerBeagle Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 i said i would do a lot of things and she also, that doesnt mean that we have to. i would think.She broke her relationship 'promises' to you, so you feel validated to break your financial 'promises' to her? What she did was wrong (or, maybe not, judging by your maturity level here), but it doesn't give you the right to leave her hanging with your debt.
Template Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Hmm.. interesting. Almost similar to my situation, but not quite, and I'm curious what you guys think. (I don't want to steal this thread, so please feel free to blast me for doing so and I guess I'll just start another) So here's the fact with my ex. (moved in nov. 08) -When I first moved in with her, we discussed finances, and we determined that I would pay for the utilities and groceries. -I paid her $1000 for Nov. (I don't know what the real total is, just paid her 1000 to be nice.) -I bought a TV (~1700 dollars), that was supposed to be ours. My contribution to the new relationship, etc. -Paid her $1000 at the end of December. (Still don't know what the real total of the utilities and groceries were). -Broke up a week later. She kept the tv claiming it was a birthday gift (never implied it was, and said it was to cover consumable for the two months I was there), and because of the haste departure (kicked out), I had to used the money that was originally in my checking account to provide myself shelter at a cheap hotel-thus bouncing the check. Now she is hounding me for the $1000 bucks. So what do y'all think.
Geishawhelk Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 She can hound all she likes. You contributed. Yup. Start a thread.......
Template Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 cool... will do... didn't mean to hijack Please ignore my post on here
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