lostheartandsoul Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 So, this guy I was dating called it off after a month. I found out later it was because his other friends don't like me, they haven't even met me. He was an OK boyfriend, but it is in his nature to be affectionate and he is always hugging everyone. I didn't get jealous though, well I hid it well at least. Now we are "friends", yet he still hugs me and calls me like nothing is wrong. He knows he hurt me and knows I still have feelings for him, but he continues anyway. Just last week, I guess he decided he still liked me and wanted to become "friends with benefits", so we could be together in secret and he wouldn't get crap from his friends. Of course i told him no, if he wants me we have to be going out, plus I am way to attached for that sort of thing. Now, we are still friends, but I really want him back. I get so mad when he hugs me, because it is just a reminder of what I want but can't have. I would tell him to stop, but then I wouldn't have any relationship at all with him. I'm stuck and don't know what to do. Should I try to win him back, just ignore him forever, or continue being friends and have daily doses of pain? Thanks for any advice given.
HEARTBROKENHURT Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 If he left u b/c he friends don't "like" u then u don't need him babe. His idea of "fwb" that's just a way he can be gettin some while he searches for someone else. He could also use the tactic of wanting to date u and be with u and u guys start dating and then he gets "it" and then all of sudden doesn't think it's best for u and hit to date right now. Watch urself with him babe.
Geishawhelk Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Lost, I'm afraid there's only one cure for this. you tell him to go jump in the lake. he's pulling at your heart-strings and you have to be firm and kick him to the kerb. It's perfectly convenient for him to dangle you around as a good friend, but he seems oblivious to the fact that you're broken hearted. This either makes him extraordinarily dense, or extraordinarily cruel. It could even be a measured dose of both.... he's being very callous, so I'm afraid it's up to you to be strong and tell him to keep his distance. if he doesn't think enough of you to want you as a GF (inspite of his stoopid friends!) then you don't think enough of him to want his breadcrums. He's jerking you along. Stop being in situations where he can take advantage of this. Tell him to back off. Nobody touches you without your say-so.
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