ARDriver01 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I haven't seen her in well over a year, the divorce is totally final, I'm in a great healthy relationship with a normal person, but I heard some news about the old succubus. She told everybody at this bar that we currently go to that I was beating her every night. She told this a bunch of guys that she slept with while we were married. Apparently, she was getting around a lot more than I knew of with a ton of men. Telling them that I was abusive physically. This came from my good friends girlfriend, a bar tender. She told me that nobody believed it anyway and they all had a good laugh over it and after a punch in the teeth and being pushed into a swimming pool (by my good friends girlfriend ) at a party, she was shamed and hasn't been seen in a while. Regardless of the fact that I was indirectly avenged, I'm pretty pissed. I'm getting close to sending her a message. I know I shouldn't. It angers me. She actually used to hit me all the time. She would slap me in front of people and stuff. I don't know how to not be angry about this. I know its all really funny actually and yesterday was a good high for me because I was laughing all day. Like, everything was funny. So... I don't know... :/
Trialbyfire Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Nutbars need to be left in the past. There's a reason why she's history. Thank your lucky stars that someone was looking out for you, so you're not tied to her for life! Stay away from Jerry Springer women!
quankanne Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 ARD, just hold your head high – what is it they say about slander & libel? Truth is the best defense. in your case, she's going to out herself for the person she really is, and that's the best revenge you could hope for, because SHE will have done it to herself!
mark982 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 i'm in the same boat, mines running around spewing the same crap.even though i caught her in bed 2x w/ others, and she tried to stab me. she can say what she wants. i don't care what people think, don't need revenge.just brush it off, you know what happened, that's all that matters. you can't change history.
PWSX3 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 They have to blame someone for there crazy actions because they aren't going to blame themselves...... If you feel like sending her an email or letter, just write it out on paper & then throw it away. Writing it down does a lot of good & then you throw it away so it doesn't grow to more issues.....
reservoirdog1 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 If you have no reason to have any contact with the psycho hose beast, I'd let it go. If it pisses you off, take some boxing or boxer fit classes and imagine her face on a punching bag. You could sue her for defamation, but it's a lot more trouble than it's worth. And it would bring her back into your life, which is exactly what you don't want. Sounds like nobody puts much stock in what she said anyway.
Kasan Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I remember you and your story, and I am glad to hear that you have moved on and are doing well. I guess I wouldn't be surprised at anything she was doing when she was married to you. She had a lot of issues back then and probably still does. She didn't take the drugs that she should have and took the ones that she should not have....which you know was a recipe for disaster for your marriage. AR, you did the best that you could for her. You fought hard for her and the marriage, but as you know, it takes two. Everyone knows what she is....be grateful that you have been able to move on.
seibert253 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Why care what a whore and scumbag thinks and says. She's gone, her life is hell, and you caught a good one. Success is the sweetest revenge.
BoerumHill Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 They have to blame someone for there crazy actions because they aren't going to blame themselves...... If you feel like sending her an email or letter, just write it out on paper & then throw it away. Writing it down does a lot of good & then you throw it away so it doesn't grow to more issues..... Good advice, this works. Never contact her, she isn't worth it. Be the bigger and better person. Move forward and don't look back. Everytime you think of her or hear something about her, condition yourself to respond by 1) chuckling (she's not worth a full fledged laugh), and thinking to yourself 2) loser. Or something more vulgar if you really enjoy it. Half kidding about the last part...but seriously, just let her go and move forward with your life.
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 Yeah, so, the whole punching bag and ghost letter thing, I always thought that those kinds of things only direct your anger in the wrong direction. I've discovered that when I'm seething and obsessing about stuff, singing the Mickey Mouse Club song softly to myself works a little. That's not working though. I fantasize that a sharp true text would be the one that pushes her over the edge. Like,(in a dumbgirl voice) "OMG, he knows that I lied about him! I'm so ebarrassed, that's it..." I imagine her crying and telling people lies of what I did to her and playing the scorned abused woman role and it infuriates me. I just want to sqwash her under my foot because I'm so grossed out. I can't believe I actually did this for four years! How could have ever been in love with such human refuse. I didn't think that anybody that I ever asociated with would tell flat out lies to people about me. I was the best husband on the face of the Earth. The kind you say "awe that's so sweet" while watching some romantic comedy. . Oh... Metaphorically sqwash uner my foot. Can't be too carefule with your wording when you're an alleged wife beater. I haven't actually hit anyone since highschool and it definately wasn't a girl. Does this make me a bad person to want revenge? Is there a slick, nonstick way to get back? Damn, how do I not obsess? Man! So pissed.
underpants Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 Hey man, Thanks for the update. I'm glad things are looking up for you. It really is the best revenge, aside from the gigantic bonus of not having to cater to crazy. I would advise to not send her a note. The acknowledgement alone would validate her efforts. She will spin your contact into whatever web suits her purpose, thus pissing you off even more. Attention, any attention, positive, sympathetic or negative (to prove her victim stance) is what she craves. Don't fall for it. If anything I would tip the bartender that gave you the truth a few extra bucks and tell her to buy the person that threw you ex into the pool a drink. Focus any angst in a postive way on your new relationship. She will remain the same person, with new victims. You however, got away. Stay away.
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