Inflikted Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I've posted about this here before, but still haven't advanced much... Let me try and briefly sum up my story. I'm a 20 year old guy; early last year, via MySpace, I got back in touch with an old female class mate who I was absolutely crazy about in grade school. She seemed surprisingly happy to hear from me, and we messaged back and forth for a few months, and I could already feel all the unresolved feelings rushing back (silly, I know, considering all I knew about her was what was on her MySpace page). At the time, she had a fairly serious boyfriend; they ended up splitting up, and I jumped the gun shortly after and asked her about meeting up in person some time. Apparently, that kinda made her uncomfortable, because she stopped writing to me after I sent that message... That was about four or five months ago; we hadn't written each other since. This past Christmas, I figured I'd try and get back in the loop, and I sent her a nice little message, basically wishing her a late merry Christmas. After a few days of no answer, I lost hope, and started feeling down again, and then she surprised me, and wrote back. I was happy, because we were seemingly on speaking terms again, and with the message she sent me, she had kinda left it open for me to reply. So naturally, I wrote her again, and tried to keep a casual conversation going. But, it's been two weeks, and again, she's stopped writing to me... Now I know, to those of you that may be reading this, I probably sound like some kind of obsessive freak that's borderline stalkerish, but I'd never go that far. It's just... I dunno, I have it really bad for this girl. I've had passing crushes on other girls, and shrugged those off in time, but it's just so different with this girl... I felt this way back when we were in grade school, too; except, back then I was so shy, I rarely even talked to her. I've been trying so hard to stop thinking about her this last week, and I thought I was doing okay for a while, but now she's popped right back into my mind. It actually even kinda makes my heart hurt that things have gotten this bad between us... Even if nothing ever comes of this, I'd hate to know that the last thing she remembers about me is some creep that kept "stalking" her on MySpace. :/
Still Trying Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 You went in too fast. Online interactions are tricky business, personally I hate them and have given up on them almost entirely (in the way of meeting new people that is). Sounds like she was interested in hearing from an old classmate and nothing more. If you've sent a message and there's been no response there's not much advice to give other than focus your attention on making a connection with someone in the real world. It's so much more natural, and easier. I think you need to let this one go.
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