lilmrcheerful Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Whether good or bad, do you think that each relationship experience would have left a mark on our ex's that they would remember for the rest of their lives or do they forget the memories as time goes on? Do you think they remember more if the relationship was a good experience and that they broke it off for reasons only known to them? Do you think that they can suffer pain in years to come if things don't work out for them?
2sure Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I have had many relationships. In looking back , I tend to remember only the good stuff. Even for the bad relationships - rather than dwell on mistakes or pain - I see each of them as a lesson I had to learn. I do feel regret for some of the things I did to people, and I do sometimes have a little anger at things that were done to me...but for the most part I chalk it all up to experience.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I think we all remember certain things about past relationships, the good and bad. Somethings do dissapear from our memories and we are reminded sometimes of our ex's in good and bad ways. In my experience of dating and I havent dated too much since being divorced, I seem to remember the good from the relationship even if the guy ended things with me. As far as suffering for years or being scarred for a long time.....I was cheated on by my husband & that hurts sometimes and it makes me sad somedays. So, I guess for me unless a relationship involved cheating, lying, etc.....I seem to remember the good times.
diskey23 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 i always remember the good things, idk why? been the dumpee twice, been the dumper twice.
techfan Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I think people tend to remember the good times and forget the bad (for the most part.) I would go as far as to say if you had any significant amount of time in a relationship that you changed that persons life forever. I doubt they will ever forget you. Everyone you interact with you learn from in many ways. And in time hopefully when you look back at the past chapters of your life with those people you will smile and be happy for the good times that they brought, regardless of how it ended.
lonelygurl Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I was with my X husband many years and I regret the day I married him and still do and as of right now I regret the day I met my X the first time and I regret letting him back in my life the second time. I feel I should have dumped him the first time a month or so into our relationship when I wanted to but was talked out of it by family and then a month or so later he begged me not to dump him again......and so on and so on....... I don't remember any good times with my X husband...to much hate. And right now I feel nothing but hate for my X boyfriend of seven (broken) years, so at this point I feel it will be the same hate and regret that I will have for him as with my X husband for the rest of my life.
eDave Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 My ex had many marks (baggage) from past relationships. She was engaged 6 times. Everyone of them failed for her for varied reasons. But boy did I pay for them....
You'reasian Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Whether good or bad, do you think that each relationship experience would have left a mark on our ex's that they would remember for the rest of their lives or do they forget the memories as time goes on? Do you think they remember more if the relationship was a good experience and that they broke it off for reasons only known to them? Do you think that they can suffer pain in years to come if things don't work out for them? Sure. I think so. I've been dumped and have dumped - it sucks either way, but for the most part I tend to remember the good things - things we did together, places we went, sharing each other etc. I'm actually in contact with a few of my ex-es and we get along well. I'm sure others would prefer not to. I'm not certain if they think the relationship was a good experience or not - since i do not really dwell on the issue. If they suffer pain in years to come, I feel sorry for them and wish I could help, but ultimately they need to help themselves as I've learned.
Lizzie60 Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Whether good or bad, do you think that each relationship experience would have left a mark on our ex's that they would remember for the rest of their lives or do they forget the memories as time goes on? Do you think they remember more if the relationship was a good experience and that they broke it off for reasons only known to them? Do you think that they can suffer pain in years to come if things don't work out for them? Hum... I think they would remember the BEST or WORST experience.. IMO. In my case, I did leave a mark on every one of my 'exes'... even my ONS... (like a hot stamp on their bum)... they all call me back .. even after many years... I always (except for one) kept a good relationship with ALL my men.
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