unbreakable99 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 hi my husband told me last may he no longer loved me, an that was it he walked out, left me i have 4 kids one to him, he then asks cud we maybe sort things out, i was too scared of being hurt again, xmas nite wee met up he kissed me, totally the wrong thing my head was so confused, 2 weeks ago he asked cud he come down c the kids i told him they where sleeping, he then said well i wud actually like to see you, i refused, he came dow a few nites ago we kissed again nothing else happened, we have a house together, he is renting at the moment. well anyways i then texted him an said enough was enough he cant keep popping up like this, told him he can c kids but without me there i have had no contact with him in 10 days, the thing is he was the one that walked out, but keeps sending texts every so often like on new years eve he send a text saying happy new year an all that stuff, we where together 6 years married 5 i just dont get wat he wants sorry just need to vent, it still hurts 9 mths on
Nozz Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Well first sorry to hear about this. Secondly, he is still keeping contact with you as a backup. This has happened to me as well. You see your safe and reliable. He knows this. You will be there for him and so if things don't work out on whatever it is he is doing he has you on backup. If the kids are not his I would shut him out. Why should they have to deal with this guy and his misbehavoir? The calling and texts are to string you along so if he should need you will be there. He will give just enough attention to remind you he is still there while he is out doing God knows what. It's a sick game and it's cruel im my opinion. Time will assist in healing pain, but It never really goes away. You just learn to live with it. Take care.
ilmw Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Yes time does heal.... My wife ended it with me spring 06... we got back together fall 07... she then asked me to leave... Jan 08 as she still had feelings for the guy she was with. This has taken me 2.5 years to get through. The only thing I still feel is the occasional spout of anger... for what she did to not only me but to tow families and to children.... Now I am glad I am divorced.... and this is because I gave myself "time." This is a terrible thing to go through.... but it does get better. ilmw
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