moondogg Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Hi Guys I am in a dilemma here, please advise. I met a girl thru her cousin a couple of weeks ago. I proposed to her and she said ok, i said we can should date casually, no pressure. We hung out together with the rest of our frends but she suddenly became very cold and rude, this behaviour is only when im around.Anything i tried to say or do would be shot dowm. I told her i think this is not gonna work and we must rather just forget it, this was after the 2nd day that we got together. We saw each other cause our click of frends are in the same circle, her cousins are my frends. She told her cousin that im cute so I know she was interested when she met me..i also know that something bad happened to her in her past..........she was raped, so I wanted to show her that she can trust me and that i dont see her as a piece of ass.i wanted to respect her and that is why i wasnt rushing things. She later told me that i dont have a backbone and im still with over my ex girlfrend and that i irritate her but she cant say what it is.She said that we can neva be more than frends and we left it at that.........we neva spoke about "us".I saw her as a frend but she would be very unfriendly only towards me but with the rest of the group she would be ok. Nobody else has a problem with me besides her. I havent been pursuing her and i except her as my frend even though i l admit that i do like her and have feeling for her, so she isnt getting much attention from me but here s where the confusing part comes in: When we are in each other s company she allways bust my b@lls thruout the entire nite, even when i ignore her and speak to everyone else but her she will jump in the conversation and say something to me or about me even if i wsnt in the wrong. PPl that witnes this always joke and say "u guys must give me an invitation to the wedding" cause its definately gonna happen........even her uncle. Can anybody tell me what this is about? Why would she behave in such a manner? Is it possibly because i was prpared to be frends so soon, cause im not running after her? She made it clear that im not her type, is she lying to me,does she really have feelings for me but is too proud/stubborn to admit? Is the rape situation making her put up a protective barrier and is it affecting her behaviour,is it making her behave in Wht am I doing wrong in this situation?
Surfer Dude Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Care to elaborate why you posted exactly the same post yesterday?
prettybaby Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Care to elaborate why you posted exactly the same post yesterday? lol I was like wtf it's the same as yesterday
Author moondogg Posted January 29, 2009 Author Posted January 29, 2009 Cause I needed to make certain adjustments and there werent many responses, i think this is because of the title
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 As long as you were making adjustments, you could have fixed your grammar, spelling, incomplete sentences, bad paragraph structure, and use of words. FYI: Click ≠ Clique I don't see what much has changed, and don't understand why you think people should respond yet again to the same thing you already posted.
Geishawhelk Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 To address this post - she's been hurt before. Guys who pay attentiuon to her have obviously hurt her. So before you get the chance to hurt her - she'll hurt you. It's a defence mechanism. Unless you want to have to deal with an awful lot of damage limitation, psychological repair and issues, I'd move on and ignore it. And make it clear to everyone that you are just not into her. had I seen your thread yesterday - my advice would have been the same. In fact, everyone there pretty much gave you the same advice as I have here, even in your post's original state. So hopefully, the message is loud and clear. Whatever you post about this - we'll all still tell you to get the heck out of there.
Author moondogg Posted February 4, 2009 Author Posted February 4, 2009 Thanks Geishawhelk for shedding some light.SoulSearch CO,it seems that u are from the USA..........the US English differs from British English. The only thing wrong in the grammer is click, il admit that but then it is obvious that you are not familiar with text or IM "language". There s lots of abbreviations and "shortcuts". FYI:The main thing that was changed was the title
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 HAHAHA...I am fully aware of text/IM language. I just think it has no place on a forum where you have a full freaking qwerty keyboard at your command. It smacks of Jr High to not be able to type out full words. But yeah - I guess you're right about different English depending on where you're from. I IM'd with an Aussie for a bit and just thought he didn't know how to spell, or something. He explained the spelling/syntax thing to me - so I understand. Sometimes I forget.
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