lilmrcheerful Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 It's been almost two weeks now since the break up and I am feeling awful, I can't seem to control my feelings but they are not the "oh I want her back" or "god i miss her so much I can't live without her" type feelings, I can't describe why I am feeling so awful and down one moment then the next I am quite cheerful. I can certainly see the benefits of this break up (on my part at least), I am not pining for her, I've certainly tried my best to keep busy and cope, however, when there's a quiet moment my thoughts turn to the situation again and I don't want them to. I've even listed down all the practical reasons why I thought this was a good thing to happen to me, eg, she wasn't a great girlfriend in the end she was causing me huge grief and showed absolutely no consideration for me because of course her mind was on other "things", eg, her ex. I've come to the conclusion that no matter what type of break up you endure or if it actually was of a great benefit, the pain is still horrible and I can't seem to help how I feel. I think that it's at this point where you can become vulnerable and succumb in trying to contact them but as I always keep to my belief about this that I shall not contact her, she broke it off so she's the one responsible for anything that happens from this point, not me as I did nothing wrong. I just wished I knew how to control these wavey feelings of mine, I'm just so up and down that it's really affecting me now, I just don't know why it's happening because as I said I can really see the benefits of this break up. Thanks for reading.
awesomeallalone Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 i know how you feel.... i know this was probably the best thing that could have happened to our relationship and that was for it to end.... i too see the benefits of the relationship being over.... so why in the world do i still feel horrible.... ive been pondering this question for 3 weeks.... its like how can something that is good for me feel so bad..... Im just happy to know that im not the only one feeling like this!! and the ups and downs are getting so annoying.... i suppose we have to wait it out and eventually things will get better.... like they say time heals all wounds.....good luck.....
Narf Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Wow! Im doing the same thing... One min im fine it is like i know in the long run this will benefit me... but then the next im so low and im thinking what can i do to stop the feeling!! Im even trying to trick myself into contacting him or something because that will stop the mood... But then i will be back to the problems with him, that ended it in the first place!! :/ Argh very annoying
eDave Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Very annoying indeed. On minute I am very up and content. Humming around, feel like I can take on the world again. Then an hour later, bam! Sorrow, remorse, bargaining, denial, depression..... I guess I should start a spreadsheet and trend the times between to judge my progress through this...
alwayssme Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 two weeks is still early...sheeeshh...trust me
Meaplus3 Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 It's been almost two weeks now since the break up and I am feeling awful Two weeks is a very short period of time. So you should not expect to be over your feelings. Give yourself the time YOU need to heal I've even listed down all the practical reasons why I thought this was a good thing to happen to me, eg, she wasn't a great girlfriend in the end she was causing me huge grief and showed absolutely no consideration for me because of course her mind was on other "things", eg, her ex. This is a good step. By looking at the reasons that she was not that great.. will help you to realize that in the long term your better off. I've come to the conclusion that no matter what type of break up you endure or if it actually was of a great benefit, the pain is still horrible and I can't seem to help how I feel. Well.. break ups are never easy no matter how you look at it. but, in time the horrible feelings will pass. I just wished I knew how to control these wavey feelings of mine, Thanks for reading. Keep busy! It's a good way to keep your mind off the break up. Best of luck to you. It will get eaiser. Mea:)
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