uRabbit Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 So, I'm turning 21 next month. I'm finally coming into my own. I'm growing into the kind of person I've tried so hard to be, but am also learning more about myself. On the topic of relationships, in the past, I've thought I've wanted a girl that I could make happy. But that is only half of it. I never really thought about what kind of girl makes ME happy. But it's not hard to realize after so many relationships haha. I want the kind of WOMAN (not girl) that will put in the same amount of effort into the relationship and into pleasing me as I put in. I've literally always been the first to ask how their day was, give them a compliment when it's not expected, call them just to say 'hi', etc. I've only received compliments (from women) when I dig for them. I've never had someone really take the time to show their full interest in me. Anyways... Ya'll know what I'm lookin for. Other than that, someone who is fit, but not a total health nut. Someone who's smart and witty, but not a friggin brainiac. Haha. I assume book stores and coffee shops would be a good place to find these types of women? Anywhere else, maybe? I'm not really the bookish type, and actually stay away from coffee. Heh. Ya, I don't get it either. Also, I'm pretty picky when it comes to sexual intimacy. Like most men, I enjoy giving/receiving oral, among other things. Is there a good way to go about finding out whether or not that person is open to those things as well, without completely offending them or getting wrapped up in a half-year relationship only to realize it was a waste of time? And lastly, but most importantly, how do I go about getting with these women? I'm no sort of pick-up artist. I'm relatively short (5'7") and have glasses. Both of those tend to lower my self esteem and most definitely effects how I interact with women. I think I'm pretty attractive other than that, tho. So how do I open up and get their number or otherwise start it off? Especially when they're, say, a perfect stranger? Phew. Hope I get some responses. It's been too long. I'm ready to settle down.
JennaGennaro Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 It sounds like you have way too many expectations of a woman. You can find about half of those in an average, nice woman, but with everything else you want, it sounds to me like online dating or posting an ad might be your best bet so that you can get a profile of a woman that matches yours. It kind of sounds like you would like to pick the woman out of a catalog or something. I admit that I am typically drawn to taller guys. I am 5'7 myself, but my husband is only 5'10 and I fell in love with him for who he is, not his height. Also, an ex BF had glasses and he was very sexy with them, so don't let that deter you. If it does, then have you looked into contacts or Lasik?
prettybaby Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 You could also look at yourself and your life and ask yourself what kind of women you could make happy.
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I want the kind of WOMAN (not girl) that will put in the same amount of effort into the relationship and into pleasing me as I put in. I've literally always been the first to ask how their day was, give them a compliment when it's not expected, call them just to say 'hi', etc. I've only received compliments (from women) when I dig for them. I've never had someone really take the time to show their full interest in me. Anyways... Ya'll know what I'm lookin for. YOu say you're 21. If this is what you are looking for in a woman, wait 3-4 more years. But look on the bright side, you can enjoy being 21!
Author uRabbit Posted January 28, 2009 Author Posted January 28, 2009 Thanks ya'll. I don't think what I'm looking for is too much. I think it's pretty sensible, actually. Heh. I've tried the whole online thing. Three girls I've dated have been a product of that and only one of them was worth my time. Tho I screwed up that relationship myself. >.< I guess I'm on my own here. Thanks anyways.
chrislovestosurf Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 YOu say you're 21. If this is what you are looking for in a woman, wait 3-4 more years. But look on the bright side, you can enjoy being 21! since you are turning 21 I would assume you are looking to date in the 19-24 range. In my experience many women at that college age are still immature in the sense that they still want to party and meet different types of men. I dont mean to generalize because some women DO want to settle down in their early 20's. I feel that once a female finds a real job after college, has their own place and pays rent, and is over the party stage in life, they will want something more long term. As Rryan said live it up now and you'll really see the difference between a 22 year old woman and a 25 year old woman, even though its only 3 years.
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