Girlygirl1977 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I'm trying something new here with online dating. I posted a profile without a pic and got a good number of responses on Saturday. I filtered out most of the guys unfortunately but one seemed pretty good. I did this kind of to distract myself a bit to be honest after recently ending a short but intense relationship. I'm a professional here in NYC and so generally that's usually who I date too. He is a doctor (I googled him and saw his pic on the hospital site) and is 33 (I'm 31 - so not as old as ex! good.) and we have common interests (according to him anyway). I actually have a bad dating experience with a doctor who was pretty selfish but am trying to be open. I posted on Saturday and he responded with a pic and I sent him some of me. Then he responded on Sunday afternoon that he would like to communicate further after receiving a handful of my pics. I responded to some questions and he responded that we had common interests so would like like to meet. The previous exchanges only had 1-2 hours lag time each. I realized that it was more real if I will be meeting up so I kind of overthought but decided to write back 5 hours later last night ~9pm and told him I am free from Thursday onward this week. He hasn't written back yet. Does this mean he isn't interested I guess? It would be bad for me to follow-up in a few days if I don't hear?
Tony T Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 He may be playing the same game you did...by waiting to reply. He may not have received your Email. He may have met someone else. He may be stuck with patients in the ER...who knows? If you don't hear from him in a day or two, write him again but don't discuss any specifics about getting together. You need to at least get this out of Email and onto the telephone so you can establish at least a voice relationship. Going back and forth with Email just to get a date really sux. Give him your cell number and tell him it would be nice to get a call from him. If he's really a doctor that wouldn't hurt...he hardly has time to harass you. Hint: Doctors spend so much time in medical school and interning they have little or no time for socializing. That's why so many of them are very nerdy when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex.
Author Girlygirl1977 Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 He may be playing the same game you did...by waiting to reply. He may not have received your Email. He may have met someone else. He may be stuck with patients in the ER...who knows? If you don't hear from him in a day or two, write him again but don't discuss any specifics about getting together. You need to at least get this out of Email and onto the telephone so you can establish at least a voice relationship. Going back and forth with Email just to get a date really sux. Give him your cell number and tell him it would be nice to get a call from him. If he's really a doctor that wouldn't hurt...he hardly has time to harass you. Hint: Doctors spend so much time in medical school and interning they have little or no time for socializing. That's why so many of them are very nerdy when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. Good thoughts - yeah all those things are possibilities. Frankly, I'm surprised he had time to be looking on a free website for a date. He was very responsive over the weekend through Sunday evening too. I could see from the hospital site that he is an anesthesiologist so he could very well be busy with surgeries (i guess that's a good excuse). Yeah that's a good point if I have to follow-up, I'll do what you say (give my cell) and not give say anything about trying to meet up. Sounds very wise. It seems many of the guys who I exchanged pics with (since they contacted me first) have been a bit more aggressive (probably too much) and some even tried to meet me that same night which didn't help me conclude among other reasons, I wasn't interested! So I thought it would just proceed like that. . .
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