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I just started seeing a girl (like a week ago). Shes VERY sweet, and I like her quite a bit. However, she moves a bit fast, or rather, WE moved a bit fast. She sends me texts sometimes while im at work that say things like: "I want to kiss you" or "Ive been thinking about kissing you all day". Also, she tells me how much she likes me quite a bit and seems to harp on my looks; she says that she feels like its "too perfect" and something has to go horribly wrong. I really like this girl, so should I just accept this behavior, or beware of whats to come? Shes been through a lot (tragedy) recently so a little instability is understandable. What do you think? Should I be worried? I really like being with her, but sometimes its a bit intimidating and I dont know what to think. It's like she doesn't have much of an internal censor. If I were shallow, I think I may have run already, but I really dont know how to do that to someone, plus, like I said, I dig her.

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I had this very same problem and the suggestion I received was "Get out".

Imagine what it is like if you date her and then want to break it off??

 

She could be just someone that talks that way.

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So your saying that I shouldnt assume shes crazy, despite the feedback you recieved? She could just be a fiery gal, which theres really nothing wrong with?

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you dig her, she digs you. So just continue and see how it goes. It's only been a week, after all...

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WTF

 

stop complaininig

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It's unbelievable sometimes... the standards that are STILL applied to women these days. What in the world does going through a tragedy have anything to do with being forward and telling you what she wants?

 

I'd say you should probably be "red-flagged" for analyzing this after 1 week of dating. I know, I know... it must be hard being so good looking that your girlfriend wont shut up about it.

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just roll with it dude, sounds like you got it pretty good! i would love to have a girl come on to me that strong so soon!

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So your saying that I shouldnt assume shes crazy, despite the feedback you recieved? She could just be a fiery gal, which theres really nothing wrong with?

Oh, mine was much better. It was someone I was chatting with online who had never met me, and she was calling me sweety, I miss you, etc in every other email afterwards. Seemed needy and overboard.

 

But yea, if you dig her and she digs you, just go with it.

If you're concerned it is all too fast communicate with her about it.

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OP, so how do those kisses go?

 

You have the ability to pace a developing relationship. Practice your communication skills :)

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Dude, it's only been a week :confused:

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It's unbelievable sometimes... the standards that are STILL applied to women these days. What in the world does going through a tragedy have anything to do with being forward and telling you what she wants?

 

I'd say you should probably be "red-flagged" for analyzing this after 1 week of dating. I know, I know... it must be hard being so good looking that your girlfriend wont shut up about it.

 

What are you talking about? Im not COMPLAINING, but I have had bad experiences with girls in the past who acted this way. Im just trying to look out for myself here, and not invest too much in someone who is going to be extremely unstable, as this behavior sometimes indicates a very impulsive person. I don't want to get hurt down the road.

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Don't go proposing to her just yet or anything like that, but otherwise, enjoy it! If things move too fast for you, just start slowing it down a little. Any relationship you're in has the potential to hurt you down the road, so your option is either to gamble that things will turn out positive, or take your chips, go home, and wind up with nothing more than you have now. Personally, I'd take the risk; even if it turns out badly in the end, it's usually more fun!

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If I were shallow, I think I may have run already, but I really dont know how to do that to someone, plus, like I said, I dig her.

 

Sit back and enjoy it. She really seems to like you!

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