stace79 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 So I have gone through with it -- the movers are scheduled, and I'm almost all packed up. I am moving out of my boyfriend and I's townhome on Wednesday morning. I know I am doing the right thing, but this just hurts so much. I wanted him to be "the one" so much, and for awhile I thought it would really work out. We aren't officially breaking up yet, but I know that's what's coming. I know we are probably not right together and that I should be proud of myself for sticking this out, but I just feel awful. I will miss him so much. I can't stand the idea of him dating other people down the road. If I know in my heart and my head this is the right thing, why does it have to hurt so much?
lofi_tokyo Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 It hurts because you loved this man. You had hopes for the future that now seem impossible. You're closing one chapter in your life and stepping into a new one, and they entails writing an ending to that last chapter, a goodbye. How can one be expect not to hurt in situations like this? Though it may feel terrible, its good that you're hurting - it shows you are alive, it shows you are not afraid to pour yourself into something so deeply that when that something collapses you fall apart with it. You're moving forwards, it hurts, but like you said, its the right thing, and quite possibly, a very good and fruitful thing to do.
Author stace79 Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 It hurts because you loved this man. You had hopes for the future that now seem impossible. You're closing one chapter in your life and stepping into a new one, and they entails writing an ending to that last chapter, a goodbye. How can one be expect not to hurt in situations like this? Though it may feel terrible, its good that you're hurting - it shows you are alive, it shows you are not afraid to pour yourself into something so deeply that when that something collapses you fall apart with it. You're moving forwards, it hurts, but like you said, its the right thing, and quite possibly, a very good and fruitful thing to do. Actually, the somewhat sick thing is that I think somewhere in my head I have always known (for almost three years! yuck!) that this wasn't going to work out well. From the polar opposite values we have to the fact that his ex was still in the picture (no cheating, just a complicated situation) when we started dating... all those things were major red flags that I just ignored. I am just glad that I can post on here and talk to friends & family about this, because I am so up and down it's ridiculous. Thanks!
andwhoknew Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 If I know in my heart and my head this is the right thing, why does it have to hurt so much? I don't know either, but it sucks, doesn't it? . You are doing the right thing and should also be proud of yourself. Even when you know beyond a shadow of a doubt it's the right thing to do, breaking up is always hard. If it wasn't, you'd be heartless. When you do find the joy it will be that much more special. I know that doesn't help right now but stick to your guns and you may be surprised down the road.
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