HRHKatie09 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 About a month ago, my boyfriend told me that he got busted for possession of marijuana and that he has to go to court and could possibly face jail time even though its his first time getting caught. He seemed really upset about it and scared of what I was going to think. Of course I got really upset and I told him that I didn't think we could have a future together. I was also upset because at the time I was scared that I was pregnant because I was a little over a week late. Two weeks ago I found out I wasn't pregnant and everything turned out fine. So about four days ago my boyfriend and I hung out like any other day. We went to Target got something to eat then went back to his house and watched TV, snuggled up on the couch,etc. As we're lying in bed, he turns to me and says "You know Katie that day that I told you that I got arrested for having pot on me and you said you didn't see a future with me I got really upset and I wanted to break up with you. The reason why I couldn't was because you said you might be pregnant." So I got really upset and got up and yelled at him for only staying with me because he thought I was pregnant. I ended up telling him that this relationship was over and stormed out of the house. I eventually cooled off and came back inside to try and work things out. Out of nowhere he starts to go off about how he feels obligated in this relationship and that hes been losing feelings for me for a couple of months. He also said that he wasn't sexually attracted to me and that when we had sex he had to think of other people. He was saying all this in a monotone voice and couldn't look me in the face. He also didn't want me touching him at all. As he was saying all of this I was thinking to myself that if he wasn't feeling me, then I def would have known. He ALWAYS wanted me sleeping over his house, he wanted me to move in with him, every time we were together he always wanted to have sex, every time I met a new guy friend he became completely jealous and territorial, he was also very clingy and affectionate with me. None of that had changed over the past couple months. As he was saying all this I would tell him that he was going to regret this and he wouldn't say anything. Anytime I asked him something he wouldn't respond. He was just very quiet. So at the very end of our break up I said to him "look me in the face and tell me you don't love me anymore" and he looked down and said that it wasn't about that. I said it again and he did it. He looked me in the face and told me he didn't love me. Then I told him to tell me that he never wanted to see or hear from me again, and he did just that with a straight face and that was that. I know that was very long and descriptive but I just want to know if you think that everything he said was all out of anger or perhaps it was true. Im really upset and I was hoping he'd call me but he hasn't. I just feel like it cant be over. We've been together for 2 years and this past September he proposed to me! Help!
lonelygurl Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 When things are said in anger it is hard to shift through how much is truth and how much is just being said to hurt you. People do say things in the heat of the moment in anger to lash out and hurt people without really meaning what they say. I've done it myself. It sounds like you both need a cool off period and wait and see. Not sure about what to do after that though.
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