redant Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 My bf of 2 months left to visit his mom this past weekend. I had a good time w/o him. He came back today, but I said I would stop by tomorrow. I didn't call him after work. I didn't know if I should have called so I just didn't after work.Then my mind starts thinking maybe we are not good for each other maybe he doesn't "know" about us etc. So now he jus called I was at gym. But now I'm emotional and I'm afraid he will sense something! I'm afraid to call him back. How do I not panic or stay normal. DO I tel him anything about how I didnt know if I should call?
Tony T Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 You've just been seeing the guy for two months for Pete's sake. You deserve an award for not jumping into this thing prematurely. You should feel some butterflies by now but some people take a while for that. If you feel there's a chance, just be cool and continue dating. However, if you just don't see that things are going to happen between the two of you, stand up and tell him straight away. You've got to be honest, FOR YOUR OWN SAKE!!! Now, you have to make the decision. If you just don't want to see him anymore, tell him. If you haven't got the guts to do it in person, do it over the phone, in email, carrier pigeon or there are a few 30 second spots left on the Super Bowl. You can't do this to somebody. Play it absolutely straight with everybody you date...or stop dating.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 LOL...WHAT?? OK, step back, take 10 deep, calming breaths. Overthinking things just a TAD much. Let yourself relax a little bit, and then call him back and act natural. Why bring up not knowing if you should call? It's not really a big deal. Just call him back like everything's normal - because IT IS.
Author redant Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 no thats not really what i was saying. I just feel a bit unsure since I have not seen him and I just start wondering what he is thinking etc etc. I get panicky. I dunno.
Author redant Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 yes i will do that Soul. It's just me. I feel better letting it out here. Thanks.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 no thats not really what i was saying. I just feel a bit unsure since I have not seen him and I just start wondering what he is thinking etc etc. I get panicky. I dunno. Overthinking it. Seriously. Call him back and start talking - then maybe you'll start to calm down a little bit. You'll be able to ease your mind a little bit.
You'reasian Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 You can't do this to somebody. Play it absolutely straight with everybody you date...or stop dating. No....I'm afraid this is what she does Tony . Juggles so may guys at once and doesn't have the guts (or enjoys the cliff-hanger) approach .
Author redant Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 not true asian. He's the only one!
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