first love, first heartbreak, you give your all and yet he dumped you

[incomplete25]

Ive been in a relationship for almost four years...He's my first bf so to speak, my first love, first in everything...our relationship was he's second and the longest term relationship he had... we already planned our future..i know how much he loved me...

 

we dont often fight, but he's a nice guy who doesn't want any fight...but i believe there's ups and downs in a relationship. FYI, i met him through chat, and been lovers after weeks. Now he has a new gf whom he met through chat too...The girl was so pretty, well almost alike me physically but i bet she's prettier than me..the day before we broke up, he's pleading that he doesnt want to lose me then after a day he just woke up saying his feelings is not the same anymore. How come he initiated the broke up where in hours passed he cant afford to lose me? i tried to win him back, set up a dinner, created scrap book, passed him poems songs etc that would make him believe he's my life...

i am a romantic girl and i know i did things where no other girls can do...i was just hoping he'll miss those... i begged him for 3 mos to work things out, he said ok we were on m.u stage for 3 mos...the thing is i smelled something fishy...he's getting colder and colder every single day while we are fixing our relationship, but i ignored those, coz i really love him, and i trust him, i often ask him if he's liking someone else, he would say attraction to his old friend but nothing serious...so i trust him..he would always say, he wanted to be single forever, he wanted space and i should leave him alone sometimes...i ignored the pain that no matter what he said, i still want to be the sweetest girl for him, texting him how great our relationship was... wayback everyday we used to date go to restaurants, watch fireworks displays and watch for a movie...it's been routinary so to speak...

christmas eve, i cant bear the pain anymore, i called him and ask if there's someone else already, and he said yes...it broke my heart into pieces, but i never gave up, i begged etc which is a huge mistakes.. it pushed him further away...

to cut it short, he's inlove with his chatmate, whom he used to talk whenever we had problems...days after i oficially accept the break up they are now in a relationship...He said he loves the girl so much and i mean nothing now to him..he doesnt think of me either...he doesnt miss me at all..is it a rebound relationship though he's very much in love with the girl...i know him, he's a long term kind bf...but i want him back...now im taking nc for about 2 weeks...nothing happened...is he happy? what will i do...he exchanged our 4 yr relationship to this girl whom he havent seen personally... i think they're planning to meet soon... this was the longest time we didnt talk since we've been together...did i lost him forever?

 

what if he misses me and wont take any action coz of pride...i really dont know what to do..just want to know if boys who fall easilly eventually fall out of love easily too? dont you miss your ex who been with your for the longest time and tried to be sweet and unique among others? what are the chances he'll get back..do guys easily forget the memories and their ex's?

 

thanks for reading my story, hope i could hear your comments soon

 

please help

[clv0116]

i am a romantic girl and i know i did things where no other girls can do...

 

 

Like what? Seems like you might not be basing a lot of your expectations in reality.

[Laurel48]

Couple of things,

Are you sure you love this guy from the bottom of your heart and will be able to forgive him for all his mistakes?

Are you sure this is the guy with whom you can imagine spending the rest of your life?

 

Step 1)

If you answer yes, then go back to the chat find another guy (who must be more nicer, more good looking, and more available to you) and try do go for a date. This will definitely work magic on your Boy friend and will make him come running for you.

 

Step 2)

If you answer no, then go to Step 1.

 

Peace.

[incomplete25]

Couple of things,

Are you sure you love this guy from the bottom of your heart and will be able to forgive him for all his mistakes?

Are you sure this is the guy with whom you can imagine spending the rest of your life?

 

Step 1)

If you answer yes, then go back to the chat find another guy (who must be more nicer, more good looking, and more available to you) and try do go for a date. This will definitely work magic on your Boy friend and will make him come running for you.

 

Step 2)

If you answer no, then go to Step 1.

 

Peace.

 

 

I really want him back everyday i cry what will i do, i tried to chat and go on dates, but its more painful missing him

[lofi_tokyo]

Your posts here sound a LOT like what I was posting when my breakup with the ex happened. Maybe read over some of my old threads and you'll see how... people progress to eventually feeling better?

 

He was your first love, not your last. Trust me, I know it seems like he will always be the big love of your life, I know I know I know. I poured my whole soul into my relationship with my ex. Truth is though, it was your first real relationship, right? What other relationships can your compare this to? Until you allow yourself to realize you're bigger than this break up, and let yourself heal so that you can start dating again, you'll never REALLY know just how great this past relationship was.

 

Give yourself time to heal. Talk to your girlfriends, post here, find things you enjoy in life that do not remind you of your ex. Get out there!! Your whole life is ahead of you! Keep in mind that things WILL get better, and your ex WONT be back. Charge on forward, and who knows what you will find!

[incomplete25]

Your posts here sound a LOT like what I was posting when my breakup with the ex happened. Maybe read over some of my old threads and you'll see how... people progress to eventually feeling better?

 

He was your first love, not your last. Trust me, I know it seems like he will always be the big love of your life, I know I know I know. I poured my whole soul into my relationship with my ex. Truth is though, it was your first real relationship, right? What other relationships can your compare this to? Until you allow yourself to realize you're bigger than this break up, and let yourself heal so that you can start dating again, you'll never REALLY know just how great this past relationship was.

 

Give yourself time to heal. Talk to your girlfriends, post here, find things you enjoy in life that do not remind you of your ex. Get out there!! Your whole life is ahead of you! Keep in mind that things WILL get better, and your ex WONT be back. Charge on forward, and who knows what you will find!

 

Thanks to you, if i may ask do you have a link of your thread similar to this one..id like to see the comments

[incomplete25]

i still dream of him, pls help dont know what to do, having hard time moving on

[a_f_w]

hey - incomplete25. Do you use msn messenger or something? If you want someone to chat to about it all then I'll be happy to talk. I'm in a similar situation of my own. It helps to talk about it, don't you think?

PM me your user name if you like

[incomplete25]

hey - incomplete25. Do you use msn messenger or something? If you want someone to chat to about it all then I'll be happy to talk. I'm in a similar situation of my own. It helps to talk about it, don't you think?

PM me your user name if you like

 

hello, sorry i dont have messenger here, those arent allowed in the office, pls send your message here