Luss Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 We have been together for 8 months we both go to different schools and everything has been great so far but the other night she got drunk and kissed another guy. I have never been so hurt and im not sure what to do or if i can forgive her. It happened in her own house with her roomates friend. She ignored my phone calls and text all night which is highly out of her character and when i finally got ahold of her she was clearly hammered the next morning she didnt even know what she did one of her friends told her. She was the one who told me about it and she drove to me at school that day to try to fix things but i just dont know what to do about the whole situation i have been cheated on in the past in every serious relationship i have had and i find it hard to forgive. Is it possible for someone to truly love you and do this and is it possible to move on from this and how?
Bostongirl Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Luss, I know how this all feels. It's hard to give your trust completely to one person, and have them abuse it like that. What was her reaction to it? Was she remorseful or did she just kind of shrug it off? In my opinion, being drunk is no excuse for cheating.... but she doesn't even remember it?! That is odd. You need to get the whole story and her reaction to it before you can decide how to proceed forward... Let me know.
Author Luss Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 She was very sorry and she feels awful she has been trying to do anything to make it up to me she crys on the phone everyday.
lkjh Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 do you know it was really just a kiss. People tend to minimize the bad things they do. Press a little harder.
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Like pavlovs dog, she must remember this time as very unpleasant. So she will not do it again. You must explain to her that even though you love her, You will dump her in a hot second if she ever does this again. Tell her if you ever hear of her drinking without you present, you will dump her. Tell her that alcohol did not make her do this. It only reduced her inhibitions enough so that she will do that which she wants to do anyway. So you believe that she has cheated. Tell her the ball is in her court. And then let it go.
LakesideDream Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Ah.. youth at it's finest. The world is coming to a screaching halt over a stolen, ahem... drunken kiss. Life would be so grand if something like that even registered on the radar. You to are kids "dating". No rings, no weddings, only promises made (or not made) in ignorance and happiness. Forget about the kiss! Now if her intoxication would have caused her to slip walking down a hallway leading to her landing on another mans penis.. quite accidentially, you might want to reconsider your dating relationship. As it is, it's just drama you are caught up in.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 Luss. Dump her and move on. You sound young. You have your whole life ahead of you and trust me, your younger years are fading. Don't waste them on a cheater.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 She was very sorry and she feels awful she has been trying to do anything to make it up to me she crys on the phone everyday. Well if for some silly reason you decide to give her a 2nd chance, then partying should be over for her.
samsungxoxo Posted January 28, 2009 Posted January 28, 2009 I think if it was a one time drunken kiss only then that can be overlooked, had she slept or done other things with the other guy then I would say dump her right away. Overeacting don't you think.
lkjh Posted January 29, 2009 Posted January 29, 2009 I think if it was a one time drunken kiss only then that can be overlooked, had she slept or done other things with the other guy then I would say dump her right away. Overeacting don't you think. How is he overreacting? Is because he is upset about his gf CHEATING on him? Why do you always have so much sympathy for the cheater?
unacceptable62 Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 If this was me, I would end the relationship, no doubt about it. LDR are all about trust, and you clearly can't trust her anymore. Save yourself the headache and worry and just move on.
Ramrod Posted January 30, 2009 Posted January 30, 2009 Ah.. youth at it's finest. The world is coming to a screaching halt over a stolen, ahem... drunken kiss. Life would be so grand if something like that even registered on the radar. You to are kids "dating". No rings, no weddings, only promises made (or not made) in ignorance and happiness. Forget about the kiss! Now if her intoxication would have caused her to slip walking down a hallway leading to her landing on another mans penis.. quite accidentially, you might want to reconsider your dating relationship. As it is, it's just drama you are caught up in. Are you desparate for attention? I think you and a certain unamed asian member should get together and go outside for a long walk together in the woods. Neither of you guys has anything uselful to contribute. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- OP, follow Hunk's advice, if it eats away at you, cut her loose, the anger may manifest itself in abusive behavior, you seem to to be a good guy, find a good girl.
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