lynne1973 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 damn I was doing so well, on 7 days NC it has been very painstaking indeed, cuz i do love him so much. but I finally decided enough was enough & to cut all ties. he tried calling and texting me on day 3 of NC still asking bout his son's h.w. thats on the laptop. I didn't respond. because he already knows before I left, i specifically told him i don't have it. when i took back the laptop, everything was cleared off the harddrive, (naked photos of other women, letters ect) i apologized at the time, not knowing the kid's h.w. was there. he knew this. but then today, I got a vm mssg on my desk ph# asking bout the h.w. again. and then a call came in and I took it as his # didn't show on the caller id which it usually does. so i assumed it was a customer and of course it had to be him. so i just basically told him again, why does he keep calling me over something we already discussed and that I don't have what he's looking for. he then just rudely hung up on me. now i'm back to square one of NC. i feel so bummed. i didn't want him to go away thinking that he can still get to me in that way cuz i took the call not knowing it was him. i am really trying to give him "tough love" and let him know that i will not tolerate how he's been treating me. and now i fear that's been compromised.
nature Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 It's not compromised. You said your peace, now go back to NC. It stings right now, but a few days of staying away and not hearing his voice will make you strong again. If anything, him treating you rudely on the phone should help with the NC even more. He has no reason to contact you, everything is dealt with, and you told him this. He wasn't happy about it, but tough luck for him. Who broke up with who here? Just go back to NC.
Author lynne1973 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 thx Nature for the reply, I'm the one that finally said enough is enough and left. if you like to see my original post on this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t177166/ for a background on my story.
lonelygurl Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 This time around I decided to change my phone numbers. My home phone cost me $35 to change (# is unlisted) and my cell phone nothing (also unlisted #). I finally decided today to block his emails. It was a hard thing to do. I wanted the email address deleted but the company said I can't because it is the primary to my internet. I can't take the odd email that was coming through. I had two last week. Granted one had to do with his benefits he is keeping me on for now which I am grateful, but he already had told me he would to which I had already thanked him. I have also opened new email accounts. It has been a hard weekend and today with blocking him as been very hard. It is terrible when people you love do this to you, but you need to have absolutely NC with person.
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