linz Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 my boyfriend of 3 years went out saturday night for his birthday (i have a post about this on here already) i wasnt allowed to go i had things i wanted to do with him on his birthday but couldnt so i was gonna do them this weekend instead i had a room booked in hotel everything but he cant/wont come as he has to go to someones birthday party so once again my plans have been put on hold does anyone out there think this right??
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 And he deserves the pleasure of your company, why?
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 he's my partner i wanted to do something special for his birthday you saying thats wrong??
openbook08 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 eh, i think what carhill was saying is that youve done something so thoughtful/special and nice and he treats you like something disposable or 2nd best then why does he deserve your company??? if this is what carhill was alluding too then i completely agree.
Geishawhelk Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 getting kicked once is unfortunate. Getting kicked twice - whilst you're still down - is completely inconsiderate and selfish. He's either got to make a bit more effort to be there for you (given that you probably made arrangements for your son - again!) or you will just have to ask him where he sees this going. Because 3 years is a long time to be dragged around by the nose. Time to call a halt and find out what's what.....
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 yep my sons off to my mus again cause of my plans im so pissed off his mums got invovled telling me why cant i do it the weekend after but thats like 2 weeks after his birthday should my plans really be put on hold.
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 eh, i think what carhill was saying is that youve done something so thoughtful/special and nice and he treats you like something disposable or 2nd best then why does he deserve your company??? if this is what carhill was alluding too then i completely agree. Nice call Was my frustration showing?
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 sorry carhill missunderstood what you said
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 No worries. You'll get used to me, or not Seriously, sorry to hear about this disappointment. I know exactly what that feels like. Boot, squish heart. It sucks Understanding this from a married man's perspective, I wouldn't give someone (woman or man) who acted like this the time of day. They'd fade into the black hole of nothingness
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 im so angry about it all, all his family think im out of order dont see how myself
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Black hole is starting to look good, eh? When my wife talks about her family, all I hear is white noise; you know, like a radio telescope pointed at another galaxy
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 lol. its just pissed me off that i have to change everything AGAIN!!! all for a bloody 18 year old!!
Trimmer Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 yep my sons off to my mus again cause of my plans im so pissed off his mums got invovled telling me why cant i do it the weekend after but thats like 2 weeks after his birthday should my plans really be put on hold. So his mom is negotiating your time with him? How old is he?
Author linz Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 his 25 im 27 she telling me to do it another weekend this birthday hes going to is not a member of the family is a girl that lives across the street if it was family fair enough id understand. he also said to me earlier he would rather go with me on saturday but has to show his face at this party and keep his mum happy!!
Trimmer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 his 25 im 27 she telling me to do it another weekend this birthday hes going to is not a member of the family is a girl that lives across the street if it was family fair enough id understand. he also said to me earlier he would rather go with me on saturday but has to show his face at this party and keep his mum happy!! Hmmmm..... I think this should tell you something. Exactly what it tells you depends on the nature of your relationship, and we can't completely take it apart from the scant information we know so far, but I think you should give some thought to the implications of this statement.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Hi linz. this sounds like just one of the things that went wrong in my relationship. (over now!). I didn't do anything about it at the time. I let it get to the stage where it was too late to say anything. my ex took me for granted. It seems that's what your boyfriend is doing now. We don't know obviously how good your relationship is normally, but this certainly has implications. Nip it in the bud. don't let it get any worse. that's one thing I've learned.
Author linz Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 our relationship is not great at the moment but we had a chat last week and decided things were gonna change and we're gonna get things back on track but thats not happening it seems to me other people are more important like his mum and the girl whos birthday it is
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 well if you're going to get things back on track you really need to confront this issue now. he obviously thinks what he's doing is ok....................or that he'll get away with it, which shows a complete lack of respect for your wishes. NOT fair. you have to say it before it happens, because letting it happen and saying something after only lets him see that he can get away with it, and he'll do it again.
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