Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm going to Las Vegas at the end of March. My married best friend told me to go out and buy some dresses to wear when we go out at night. What do you think is "appropriate" to wear out at night? (while in a relationship) A dress? A skirt? I would like some opinions from guys and girls on what you think.
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Wear whatever you feel like wearing. Why is this an issue? It's not like you're gonna sleep with random people, right? lol
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Wear whatever you feel like wearing. Why is this an issue? It's not like you're gonna sleep with random people, right? lol Well, I went and bought some dresses and tried them on. My boyfriend said the one looked too "revealing" and that I may give people "the wrong idea." This dress was NOT revealing at all. It was not low cut, it covered pretty much everything! It was tight and form fitting though. It's not like I'm trying to score with a bunch of dudes! He's afraid I'll cheat or something? Plus my married friend wears sexy dresses like that! She's not going to go cheat on her husband or anything!
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 It sounds like your issue is dealing with a jealous boyfriend; not the clothes lol I wear sexy stuff all the time and the guys I've been with have never complained ... it's generally been quite the opposite actually.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 It sounds like your issue is dealing with a jealous boyfriend; not the clothes lol I wear sexy stuff all the time and the guys I've been with have never complained ... it's generally been quite the opposite actually. Yeah, you may be right about that. I told him there isn't anything to worry about, but I think he thinks guys are going to hit on me.
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Well, it's Vegas. Of course guys are going to hit on you The most important is that you're not going to act on it. Is he going with you? If so, then you could just wear whatever sexy outfit you want and basically stay glued to him all the time. Although I suppose trust issues can lay pretty deep, so it's something you may have to deal with for quite a while.
movingonandon Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Of course (most likely, probably) you're not going to cheat, but you still enjoy the male attention . That's fine, but no need to make it look more innocent than it really is . You don't need to be jealous man to be annoyed by that. You're traveling without your boyfriend, show some respect. I don't consider myself jealous at all, but I'd still be irritated if my girlfriend is packing "low cut" "tight" dresses on a trip to vegas.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Well, it's Vegas. Of course guys are going to hit on you The most important is that you're not going to act on it. Is he going with you? If so, then you could just wear whatever sexy outfit you want and basically stay glued to him all the time. Although I suppose trust issues can lay pretty deep, so it's something you may have to deal with for quite a while. No, he isn't going with me. Hence, why I am wondering about this. That's probably why he is paranoid. He keeps saying how happy he is that I am going to visit her, I think he may be trying to convince himself of that. I'm honestly trying to "branch out" instead of be so dependent on him. I've never been to Vegas so I thought it would be fun. Her husband won't be there either since he is getting deployed to Afganistan. That's another reason I am going, she is very upset by this.
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Do you guys live together? I don't see how he'd even know what you'll be taking with you and wear there lol
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Ah, a delicious Monday morning My simple response, as someone who has been to Las Vegas many times and who has friends there is that you do exactly what you want to do. If you want to dress sexy, do that. If you want to play the slots in sweats, do that. If you want to stay in your room and drink for a week, do that. It's Las Vegas FWIW, my wife and her friends always "dress up" when in Vegas and out socializing. Lots of cleavage and short skirts/dresses for those with the legs to pull them off. Hair, makeup, nails, toes, the works. Live a little
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Of course (most likely, probably) you're not going to cheat, but you still enjoy the male attention . That's fine, but no need to make it look more innocent than it really is . You don't need to be jealous man to be annoyed by that. You're traveling without your boyfriend, show some respect. I don't consider myself jealous at all, but I'd still be irritated if my girlfriend is packing "low cut" "tight" dresses on a trip to vegas. Yeah, I see your point. I don't want to disrespect him, but I feel like he is censoring my wardrobe or something.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Do you guys live together? I don't see how he'd even know what you'll be taking with you and wear there lol Yeah we live together. Maybe I shouldn't have tried the dresses on for him...
Lishy Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Wear whatever you want and you dont have to try it on and run it by him LB - I am sure when he went to Vegas you didnt have to OK his suitcase!! Have fun and dont worry!!!!!
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 The shoe is on the other foot right now, isn't it? Wear the dresses. You'll find you'll look almost prudish in Vegas, if it's not cut low and very, very short! My only tip would be that any dress you bring, should be the type of jersey fabric that doesn't wrinkle easily. You don't want to waste your time ironing, while in Vegas. Too much to see and do! Have a great time!
MindoverMatter Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Wear what you would feel comfortable wearing somewhere else as well (don't go Vegas crazy). Have fun, and don't let your boyfriend censor you in any way.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 The shoe is on the other foot right now, isn't it? Wear the dresses. You'll find you'll look almost prudish in Vegas, if it's not cut low and very, very short! My only tip would be that any dress you bring, should be the type of jersey fabric that doesn't wrinkle easily. You don't want to waste your time ironing, while in Vegas. Too much to see and do! Have a great time! HAHA, I know, it's awesome!!! I LOVE the dress I bought and I really want to wear it, not to pick up dudes but to look nice! I didn't pick out his clothes to take to Vegas!
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Well, I went and bought some dresses and tried them on. My boyfriend said the one looked too "revealing" and that I may give people "the wrong idea." This dress was NOT revealing at all. It was not low cut, it covered pretty much everything! It was tight and form fitting though. It's not like I'm trying to score with a bunch of dudes! He's afraid I'll cheat or something? Plus my married friend wears sexy dresses like that! She's not going to go cheat on her husband or anything! You are as you dress! If you wear super skin tight stuff, guys are going to think you are looking for attention... in other words, looking for a man. Dress however you want, but understand that every guy knows what it means. Most of us shut up about stuff like that cause... hey... I want to see you wear some hoochie gear. It's all good for me, cause I don't have any feelings for you. Get it?
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Lauriebelle, if you don't want the guys crapping all over you, take a pic of you in the dress from the neck down and put it in your profile. I suspect it's a pretty tame dress. You don't strike me as someone who would wear clothing so tight, that ever single lump and bump is evident! "I can literally see that you had the whole lobster for dinner".
ejc Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Yeah, I see your point. I don't want to disrespect him, but I feel like he is censoring my wardrobe or something. Enjoying yourself doesn't mean that you're disrespecting him as long as you're being faithful.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Lauriebelle, if you don't want the guys crapping all over you, take a pic of you in the dress from the neck down and put it in your profile. I suspect it's a pretty tame dress. You don't strike me as someone who would wear clothing so tight, that ever single lump and bump is evident! "I can literally see that you had the whole lobster for dinner". That is actually a good idea. As long as the dress is not scandalous. There are two sides to the issue... Control vs. Respect. I notice most of the women tend to think this is a control issue. Perhaps that is the case.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 You are as you dress! If you wear super skin tight stuff, guys are going to think you are looking for attention... in other words, looking for a man. Dress however you want, but understand that every guy knows what it means. Most of us shut up about stuff like that cause... hey... I want to see you wear some hoochie gear. It's all good for me, cause I don't have any feelings for you. Get it? WTF? Okay I get where you are coming from, but seriously do you think girls should dress in sweat pants and a t-shirt? I'm not looking for a man AT ALL. Chances are even if I did wear something less revealing I would still get hit on (i'm an attractive girl). But seriously this dress isn't even revealing at all! It's a little form fitting that's about it. Guys usually assume that if there isn't a dude standing beside you that you are fair game. That's what happens when you go somewhere without your boyfriend.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 That is actually a good idea. As long as the dress is not scandalous. There are two sides to the issue... Control vs. Respect. I notice most of the women tend to think this is a control issue. Perhaps that is the case. More like insecurity/jealousy. He's afraid tons of dudes are going to hit on me if I dress in a sexy dress. I mean think about it: would you hit on an attractive girl in a nice dress? Probably. It's a double standard to be pissed off when someone else hits on your girlfriend when you know you'd do the same thing. (if you were single)
whitburn1986 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 He shouldn't try and censor your wardrobe; double standards, obviously. I mean, he wouldn't like it if you told him "you can't wear that shirt as it's too open-necked and other girls can see your abs/pecs and I don't like it!" If he's controlling, break up with him, find someone else who isn't as possessive. This is as close to bullying as you can get.
RunAway88 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Only insecure men worry about what their GF wears. Mine goes to clubs without me wearing short skirts and tight clothes and it doesn't fill me with dread, because if she cheats then there ain't a lot I can about that is there? I'll get over her and find someone else, it's easy when you replace emotion with rational thought.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 WTF? Okay I get where you are coming from, but seriously do you think girls should dress in sweat pants and a t-shirt? I'm not looking for a man AT ALL. Chances are even if I did wear something less revealing I would still get hit on (i'm an attractive girl). But seriously this dress isn't even revealing at all! It's a little form fitting that's about it. Guys usually assume that if there isn't a dude standing beside you that you are fair game. That's what happens when you go somewhere without your boyfriend. If the dress is no big deal... why is he objecting to it? Unless he is kind of mental that doesn't make sense. Yes, we do tend to think your fair game if your out alone. However, don't think we do not pay attention to the way you dress as well. Jeans and a Tshirt say something different than a cocktail dress. More like insecurity/jealousy. He's afraid tons of dudes are going to hit on me if I dress in a sexy dress. I mean think about it: would you hit on an attractive girl in a nice dress? Probably. It's a double standard to be pissed off when someone else hits on your girlfriend when you know you'd do the same thing. (if you were single) Does he have a reason to feel insecure/jealous? Have you been fighting with him? How have you treated him recently? Sometimes the state of the relationship can trigger a jealous reaction more than any internal issues. Plus the chick your going to hang out with is suspect.
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