FIREMAN Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Is it weird that my GF doesn't want to cuddle after sex? Often, as soon as were done, she runs to the bathroom to "clean up" and then comes back and wants to go right to bed. Usually girls want to cuddle after sex. Any ideas?
Princess_in_love Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 ask her if she wants to cuddle, if she seems like she doesn't, tell her it is something on your mind. ask her why. maybe she's got some issues about intimacy. maybe she is mad? maybe she's just different about intimacy that some other people. maybe she doesn't think you want to cuddle. you should ask her, though.
JennaGennaro Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Maybe she has some notion that sex is dirty and that is why she has to clean up. Some women are just weird about hygiene. I knew this girl who REFUSED to have sex with her husband unless HE showered first (everytime). By running to the bathroom immediately after, she is breaking the afterglow moment. I like to cuddle with my husband after making love, but I can't sleep like that. A lot of men are cuddlers when sleeping and a lot of women can't sleep like that. As far as telling her you would like to cuddle, you need to communicate that to her. If she has had other lovers, it may be that they did not want to do that and so she got used to it.
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 ask her if she wants to cuddle, if she seems like she doesn't, tell her it is something on your mind. ask her why. maybe she's got some issues about intimacy. maybe she is mad? maybe she's just different about intimacy that some other people. maybe she doesn't think you want to cuddle. you should ask her, though. Maybe she has some notion that sex is dirty and that is why she has to clean up. Some women are just weird about hygiene. I knew this girl who REFUSED to have sex with her husband unless HE showered first (everytime). By running to the bathroom immediately after, she is breaking the afterglow moment. I like to cuddle with my husband after making love, but I can't sleep like that. A lot of men are cuddlers when sleeping and a lot of women can't sleep like that. As far as telling her you would like to cuddle, you need to communicate that to her. If she has had other lovers, it may be that they did not want to do that and so she got used to it. You two should read up on FIREMAN's previous threads, and then you'll REALLY understand why she doesn't want to cuddle.
zenith Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 You two should read up on FIREMAN's previous threads, and then you'll REALLY understand why she doesn't want to cuddle. care to elaborate?
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I'll give you the gist, zenith. FIRE's girl has checked out emotionally for quite sometime (this is public info). Shes haging out with friends, going out to bars, living the single life all the while keeping FIRE on the edge of his seat, in a ****ty situation.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 In one of Fireman's threads, he said that his GF straight up told him she didn't know if she was sexually attracted to him. So her behavior in not wanting to cuddle post-coitus makes perfect sense. She's not into it (sex) with him.
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 In one of Fireman's threads, he said that his GF straight up told him she didn't know if she was sexually attracted to him. So her behavior in not wanting to cuddle post-coitus makes perfect sense. She's not into it (sex) with him. Don't even spin it. This is just a by-product of her having lost total interest in him. She's not into sex? Nah. Shes not into HIM. Why? because she's living like shes single. This happens to all of us at some point if a gf breaks up with us.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I was into the whole cuddling thing with my "first." Not really all that much, anymore. LOL I feel hot and sweaty and just want to cool down first - go to the bathroom and then get some water. Once I've cooled, then I don't mind cuddling to sleep.
burningashes Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Lol, my bf is my first non-cuddler out of all the guys I've dated so far :/ He does cuddle with me after sex or when we're lying down watching tv, but he doesn't cuddle with me when he goes to sleep. You should ask her what's up, but if what the other posters are saying are true, you need to get out of the relationship asap.
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