mewbomb Posted September 25, 2003 Posted September 25, 2003 Ok, some thoughts would be appreciate on this one. I have been dating a girl for over a year now and it has been great, we did break up, but we got through it and now its wonderfull. So here we are, I had some really great plans for this one night and it is in the city so she would have to come meet me by taking the train. Ok, so she said ill pack a bag and stay with you... meanwhile saying she will rush to make the train because of work stuff to do. OK fine.. but we will make it on time.... good! So the next day comes and she says that there is another thing after work and probably won't make it on time... so i say "ok... ill find someone to go, no problem". Great, so now im on the prowl for someone to go and finally get someone.. I call her to see how she's doing later on, what do she say... "I got a dog today!" im like really... of all days??? anyways... WHy im writing this is to get some reactions to this... was this all planned? Any help is appreciated,,, i wish i didn't think to much about it, but a dog?? She was thinking about it, but what could have possessed her to do it on the day that we had planned to go!!!!
FERSHEEZY Posted September 25, 2003 Posted September 25, 2003 maybe you weren't clear that this was to be a romantic type thing?
Author mewbomb Posted September 25, 2003 Author Posted September 25, 2003 it was a bit romantic.. yes... not like candle light dinner but a nice concert...
FERSHEEZY Posted September 25, 2003 Posted September 25, 2003 did she know that? and why would you look to take someone else?
Author mewbomb Posted September 25, 2003 Author Posted September 25, 2003 i didn't want to take someone else, i just took a friend and really wanted her there.. ya know... now its all about the dog...
NEONINK Posted September 25, 2003 Posted September 25, 2003 Find a cat lover, they can leave for weekends. Dog owners have a harder time. Sounds like this gal needed companionship of the 4-legged kind and she's playing house at home now. Sorry, you need to talk to her and get the story. If I were in a relationship, I would talk to the person I see about going with me to get the dog.
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 now it seems that every waking moment and all her time revolve around this dog.... for ***** sake she too tired to get it on.. someone give me some advice on how to deal with this...MUCH appreciated!!!! feel a bit neglected i guess...is it me??
FERSHEEZY Posted September 30, 2003 Posted September 30, 2003 i know what your going through. i went to my ex's house one day and........surprise!!!!!!!!........ he got a dog. i was not thrilled to say the least. having a dog is almost like having a kid. im not sure what exactly you can do. you either accept the dog or you don't. a dog will be around for an average of 10 years. that may give you something to think about. maybe she doesnt take your relationship as seriously as you do judging by her actions thus far. it sucks when your significant other would rather hang out with their dog than you. ive been there. all i can say is that dog lovers are a different breed....no pun intended. dont get me wrong...i "like" dogs and plan on getting one someday, but it's actually alot more work than people realize. so your girlfriend may have the patience and the desire for it, but that doesn't mean you have too. let me (us) know what happens.
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 i really don't think that i won't be able to handle it, im wondering if she is trying to tell me something... she says all the time how much she loves me and wants it to be OUR dog.... I think that i wan't that too..because i love her very much... sometimes it seems like she doesn't have enough energy for it all.. but says nonetheless... she will do it.. any more comments will be greatly appreciated...
aquaria127 Posted September 30, 2003 Posted September 30, 2003 let's state the facts here.... a dog is like a kid- it needs food, water, medical care and nearly constant attention (unless you are successful at using a training method to put it in a carry cage for hours at a time) and, as mentioned, the dog will be around for at least 10 years. unless she gives it to someone else (bigger dogs have a shorter lifespan) what doesn't make much sense but maybe she's flightly and flakey... is that she adopted the dog on the exact same day you invited her into the city for a date (!) you say she doesn't seem to have the energy to go to work, take care of the dog, and spend some time with you. you love her and would possibly be willing to help take care of the dog, and she seems to want this animal to be both of your responsibility let me just say: a rational person wouldn't go out and adopt a kid without consulting their significant other.
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 for the reply.. maybe she is a little.. impulsive.. she has been talking about a dog for a while now... so what am i supposed to??? is it possible there is no reason behind the day that she got the dog?? who knows...
aquaria127 Posted September 30, 2003 Posted September 30, 2003 Just simply ask her why she got the dog. you pointed out that she was doing more work stuff (for example on the night of your date). If you want to help her, then do so, but ... do you and your girlfriend live nearby, or do you need to travel for a distance, to see each other? could you keep a dog in your place for a day or overnight? realistically, getting a dog could have been an "impulse buy." Only your girlfriend knows that answer. Maybe she could return it (?!)
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 she can take it where i live and vice versa.. technically she can probably give it back or ... give it to the spca to get a good home... crazy things is.. "no pets allowed" where shes at.. .thats kinda crazy... Im guessing that i will see how it goes for the first two or three weeks... if it is that bad and i get no lovin'.. . ill speak my peace.. but..
lovedogs Posted September 30, 2003 Posted September 30, 2003 she got a dog because a dog isn't going to log on to an online forum wondering what the meaning behind it is. it means NOTHING other than she wanted a dog! if you are not living with this person, then really, it is no decision of yours whether or not she brings a dog into her life. when i got my dog, i had been wanting one for a looooong time and i stumbled across an adoption day and found the dog of my dreams so i took him home. i didn't call my boyfriend and ask him if it was "ok" to get a dog. my boyfriend didn't live with me - it was my house, my life, my decision, my dog. we are now living together in a lovely home and engaged. me, him and OUR dog. it is possible that she came across this dog and acted on it because it was the dog of her dreams. yes, a dog requires A LOT of attention at first because they need to get into the routine (and quite frankly, so do you!)... but once a routine is established, it becomes a lot easier. you're jealous because she's paying more attention to the dog. 2 or 3 weeks isn't going to be enough of an adjustment period... and, of course, it depends on how old the dog is that she got.
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 thx for your happy response... im glad your so nice aobut this whole thing.. i do appreciate your comments... but is this a forum??? I thought it was where you can come to get help with problems...or "things" that are bothering you!??! didn't your parents ever tell you... ahhh forget it! thx anyways...you do make some...good points...
FERSHEEZY Posted September 30, 2003 Posted September 30, 2003 just my opinion, but dogs are pretty close to being human. any dog lover would know that....especially lovedog. its another living breathing thing that needs attention and lots of love. it is something that can have a major impact on a relationship if its not discussed ahead of time or isn't there to begin with. so i guess maybe mewbomb should bring home another girl and see what his girlfriend says..........i mean you know.....since his gf doesn't even really seem to care for his opinion on what might be a bad idea for the relationship. not that this is a "game" but you get the idea.
Author mewbomb Posted September 30, 2003 Author Posted September 30, 2003 at least someone does realize where im going with this.... i don't know if i would do something like that.. not really sure what i will or want to do!!! fersheezy... i like yer way of thinkin' i must say!!
Recommended Posts