luverly Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I've posted alot on here because I just broke up with someone and my sister is having some problems, so I thought I'd post for her. She has been living with her BF for 2 years and together about 3. She wants to be a nurse and nursing school is hard to get into a program directly. She was put on a waiting list in the beginning of her relationship and now it's time for her to attend...finally. She starts this August in her hometown that they moved away from. The problem is her BF doesn't want to move back even though it's a 2 year program. So he would rather be in a LDR for 2 years 1,000 miles away than move back. She told him they could leave again where ever he wants to go after the 2 years. He can transfer his job to where she is attending, so his job isn't an excuse and he has no friends where he is. His only excuse is simply "he just doesn't want to". She needs to do the nursing school so she can quit working crappy jobs, so she and him can have a future. He knows this. Do you think he is being ridiculous? I do and have told her this, but she thinks it's ok. I think it's shady and selfish and don't want my sister to be hurt.
mahaneyk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 If he really loves he would make that sacrafice for her, which doesn't even sound like that much of one, if he can transfer jobs and he doesn't have many friends, he just being an ass. dont let her not go do this for 'her'. tell her to go ahead with out him, maybe he will see he is just being difficult. Good luck.....we always need good nurses.
Spoonie Posted February 4, 2009 Posted February 4, 2009 I agree with mahaneyk......I know how hard it is for those who are trying to get into nursing school I have had a good number of friends that have been on the waiting list too. But if he isnt willin to support her in fulfilling a career as a Registered nurse...(sorry to say this) then she shouldnt be with him....everything maybe great because they have been together for 3 yrs....but here's my questions and maybe you ask her to ask him....Is he wiling to let her go back and support her long distant? and what is his motive for not giving a good reason behind why he doesnt want move back and support her?
james4111 Posted February 6, 2009 Posted February 6, 2009 Agreed, he should think about her future as much as his own. My wife and i have been together for almost 12 years, we started dating our junior in high school. I stayed at home (houston texas) to go to college as I couldn't afford to attend one out of town. Her family were wealthy so she got into a really good school (in virginia). So for 4 years I visited her every 11 weeks when my school has week long breaks. When she finished her undergrad she moved to Los Angeles to go to UCLA because she managed to get into a Masters program. A year later I gave up my very well paying job to move in with her. We have been together since. Its about sacrifice. My wife was going to school for some thing she has dremt about doing since she was little. I love her too much to ever get in the way of that. My advice to her would be give him the ultimatum, move or its over. Its really weak of him to be like that especially when he can keep in the same job if he were to move at all. I had to spend 6 months trying to get a job..and living on a teacher assistance salery in Los Angeles sucks lol.
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