Dumbledore Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Well I just read this, have a look. My statement was for Americans - US residents. Wow! , and even happiness (psychological well-being) are other factors that can affect growth and final height. Depressed people are shorter.
Star Gazer Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 This is the blame game and useless: She's not attracted to me because of my height. Where more than likely it's: She doesn't find me interesting. This is so true.
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I have to chime in. I'm 6'8" and I work out. I happen to consider myself charming, but charm is irrelevant when on average 2-3 women come up to me a night wanting to get to know me better. I have no job and I'm in school full-time. I don't consider myself the best looking guy compared to all the other 5'10 pretty faces, but my dominant body allows me to not have to work for women's attention at all. Lets get real people, short guys do have a chance at happiness and scoring women, but thats not the question. The answer is, women in general prefer tall guys to short guys. Period. End of story. All the average people and women who THINK they know what women want, need not say anything at all. The short guys are here to tell you theyre having a hard time, and the tall guys are here to say it's quite easy.
The Collector Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 If the combination of qualities that constitute being attractive to women was a poker hand, being tall is an ace. But it depends on how you play your hand, you can lose with an ace and win without one.
socialight Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 all other things being equal, girls like taller guys, just like all other things being equal, guys like bigger boobs, etc. Of course, all other things are never equal.
Angel1111 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Not poking fun at you but this just made me LOL. Yeah, it is funny. It's true, though - there are two men I think of that way - two 'loves of my life' in one lifetime. And I'm not with either one of them. Some lifetime....
Angel1111 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Many 5'2" and less women would consider that tall. I guess it all depends on the kind of women you're dealing with. I'm 5'7" and my ideal guy has to be between 5'11" - 6'2". Guys on either side of this bracket makes me feel really weird. I agree. I don't like a guy to be shorter than me. Fortunately, I'm 5'2" so most people are taller than me. I don't think 5'9" is tall, though, because I wear heels most of the time and that puts us a lot closer in height. Another great thing I discovered about being with a guy closer to my height is that when we cuddled, our bodies fit perfectly together. It was really neat.
dreamergrl Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I have no issue with 5'9 - and if it makes a difference, i'm 5'5 But yes, I want a man taller then me, at least 3 inches.
Dumbledore Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 The answer is, women in general prefer tall guys to short guys. Period. End of story. All the average people and women who THINK they know what women want, need not say anything at all. The short guys are here to tell you theyre having a hard time, and the tall guys are here to say it's quite easy. Well said!
fishtaco Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 All the average people and women who THINK they know what women want, need not say anything at all. The short guys are here to tell you theyre having a hard time, and the tall guys are here to say it's quite easy. Pretty much. Taller guys have it easy. But it doesn't mean the short guy can't get anything. So if you're talking about numbers, whoever sleeps with the most women wins, the tall guy definitely has an advantage, so would the rich guy, and so would the famous guy. But for the non-tall non-rich non-famous men, they may have access to less quantity, so they'll lose the game of numbers by comparison, but it only takes one success to get a girlfriend/wife, so from that perspective, they can win just the same. It's never a positive thing to be non-tall, but if you play your game right, you can be successful just the same. I was hanging out with one of my wing-woman buddies at a friend's place. They have a dorky tall guy as new roommate. She was keen on him because he is tall, so to repay her for her wing-woman services I introduced them and tried to get them hooked up. The guy was more interested in playing World of Warcraft. And it's not because she's not capable. She's a multi-dater and usually has a roster of men on call. So no, being tall isn't everything. Granted they don't have to be as good at the dating game as the short guy, but really ultimately it's about do you have game? Tall is an advantage, but the game is what matters (and I don't mean World of Warcraft).
Trialbyfire Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 This is so true. I was strongly, strongly attracted to a guy who was a little under 5'7" because he had a lot more going for him. His height was meaningless. If the combination of qualities that constitute being attractive to women was a poker hand, being tall is an ace. But it depends on how you play your hand, you can lose with an ace and win without one. Well said. It's about time people realize that to blame one trait is ridiculous. Play it well, with the right person and it will happen. Play it wrong or with the wrong person and all of a sudden, it's the fault of your height or breast size...
Dumbledore Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Taller guys have it easy. But it doesn't mean the short guy can't get anything. So if you're talking about numbers, whoever sleeps with the most women wins, the tall guy definitely has an advantage, so would the rich guy, and so would the famous guy. But for the non-tall non-rich non-famous men, they may have access to less quantity, so they'll lose the game of numbers by comparison, Spot on. Short guys have a lot of baggage, because they're always desperate to prove themselves. It's a constant effort to compensate for their lack of height, and it takes its toll. In the end, they accept their place in life - fighting over the crumbs.
Trialbyfire Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Spot on. Short guys have a lot of baggage, because they're always desperate to prove themselves. It's a constant effort to compensate for their lack of height, and it takes its toll. In the end, they accept their place in life - fighting over the crumbs. Dumbledore, this kind of thing coming from a man who's not short, is nothing less than cruel and unnecessary. And anyways, 5'9" is not short. It's how people view themselves. If you're small and petty inside, it reflects on the outside, regardless if you're a 7' giant or not.
Angel1111 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Tom Cruise didn't let height hold him back.
fishtaco Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Spot on. Short guys have a lot of baggage, because they're always desperate to prove themselves. It's a constant effort to compensate for their lack of height, and it takes its toll. In the end, they accept their place in life - fighting over the crumbs. Haha, that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying if whoever dies that had sex with the most women wins, then short guys would lose. But if you don't care about that, and just want to find a good relationship, then short guys can still succeed. And they're not fighting over the crumbs either. Hot trophy chicks that look good in your sports car but is expensive to keep and have the personality of a rotting frog carcass doesn't make a good relationship. But you can make your friends envious and superficially appear you're the shiznit. Whatever floats your boat. Not everyone is looking for the same thing. Dating is all about perception, and nothing to do with the truth. A 8 will date a guy if she thinks he is a 9. Doesn't matter if he's really a 4. So make yourself seem like a 9. Height isn't the only way to do it. Same argument can be made about fame. If you're not famous, then you're just fighting for over the crumbs with the other non-famous guys. Doesn't exactly ring true. Ultimately it's about the game. Height, money, power, fame, are just optional "helpers". And you don't have to be the best of the best to be happy, just good enough. And good enough is something that everyone can achieve.
Chicago_Guy Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I am only about 5'9 on a good day. all my freinds are 6'0 to 6'6 Not only do I feel like a little kid around them but it seems like all they get all the attention from women. I'm not a bad looking guy. I would even say Im down right good looking when I try. but If I hang around most of my freinds they always get the attention. they are not any better looking than me so it seems like it has to be their height. So ladies I need you to be honest even if it's not what I want to hear. how important is height to you? and am I at all justified in thinking it is because of my height? I'm 5' 8.5" and I don't think I'm "too short" for most women I meet in the real world. I suspect that I might be too short for some women who do on-line dating, because such women try to size guys up based solely on numbers on a computer screen. I sometimes get attention from women who are taller than me at my gym, which I initially found surprising. If you want to improve your odds, dress well and be in good physical condition. By "dress well," I don't necessarily mean wear expensive clothes, instead wear clothes that fit and are not out-of-style.
Author I'm Joe Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 Some of you are getting this confused I know that I am not short In general terms. I'm right about average, in fact most of the guys I work with are hispanic and mostly about 3 to 5 inches shorter than me. heck I work with an asian guy who is 5'0 feet tall on a good day. I know im not short. The problem arises when Im standing next to my buddy Brandon, who looks almost exaclty like me. the only difference. Im 5'9 185 with an athletic build. and he is 6'5 255 with the same build. if Im out with him, I mind as well be his pet monkey who dances for change becuase thats all the attention im going to get. This really isnt even about weather or not I can meet women. I know I'm Smart, funny, good looking, and hard working. I can get a woman if I really want her. It just hurts to be dismissed right out of hand becuase of something out of my control. Oh, and to the guy who is 6'8. I have an Idea for a reality show. me and you switch places..... I go pick up ladies with a bunch of vietnamesse dudes and watch as the women come flocking and you go out for a night on the town with Shaq, Yao Ming, Shawn Bradley, Pao gasol and Kevin Nash and watch as you get passed up cause your the little guy.
sultry33 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 I am only about 5'9 on a good day. all my freinds are 6'0 to 6'6 Not only do I feel like a little kid around them but it seems like all they get all the attention from women. I'm not a bad looking guy. I would even say Im down right good looking when I try. but If I hang around most of my freinds they always get the attention. they are not any better looking than me so it seems like it has to be their height. So ladies I need you to be honest even if it's not what I want to hear. how important is height to you? and am I at all justified in thinking it is because of my height? hi joe, the guy im dating currently is 5ft8/9, however i was sitting down when i met him;) normally id always go for taller guys.. but i guess if the guys right then its the last thing you think about. im 5/6 and my ideal height would be 5/11
Angel1111 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 [quote=I'm Joe;It just hurts to be dismissed right out of hand becuase of something out of my control. You mean like when guys ignore the not-so-attractive women...?
lovestruck818 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Are you a celebrity? Maybe I am! j/k I'm not, but I am certainly in the same looks-bracket as those women.
Author I'm Joe Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 You mean like when guys ignore the not-so-attractive women...? Being unattractive is something that is (unfortunatley) a hinderance to both sexes. however Height seems to be a factor for women to consider much more than men.... the only downside I could see to dating a woman taller than me would be the imasculation when I had to ask her to reach something up high.... I find myself attracted to women of all heights, however it seems that women of all heights would not find me attractive. Funny story: My good freind got married a couple years ago, I was a groomsman(sp?) at his wedding. his sister was a bridesmaid. and we walked down the aisle and back together. Now I found myself extreamly attracted to her, we even hit it off chatting before the wedding and after. I would have had no problem dating this girl, however she just happens to be 6'4 even taller than her 6'2 brother. he told me a few weeks later that she said she would have loved to see where it went if only I was taller... I felt pretty sorry for her thinking that she had to find somone her own height or taller until I met her new boyfreind a few months later, he is 7'0 foot even...... last I hear she is pregnant with his son...... there is a future nba star.
kashmir Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Funny story: My good freind got married a couple years ago' date=' I was a groomsman(sp?) at his wedding. his sister was a bridesmaid. and we walked down the aisle and back together. Now I found myself extreamly attracted to her, we even hit it off chatting before the wedding and after. I would have had no problem dating this girl, however she just happens to be 6'4 even taller than her 6'2 brother. he told me a few weeks later that she said she would have loved to see where it went if only I was taller... I felt pretty sorry for her thinking that she had to find somone her own height or taller until I met her new boyfreind a few months later, he is 7'0 foot even...... last I hear she is pregnant with his son...... there is a future nba star.[/quote'] It can't be easy being in her shoes. She almost ALWAYS had to settle for a shorter guy unless she gets really lucky (which she did, as it seems). But who knows. Maybe she just took the first taller guy she could find. Maybe he's an ass to her or has some other significant flaw that she's overlooking because of his height.
Trialbyfire Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Being unattractive is something that is (unfortunatley) a hinderance to both sexes. however Height seems to be a factor for women to consider much more than men.... the only downside I could see to dating a woman taller than me would be the imasculation when I had to ask her to reach something up high.... I find myself attracted to women of all heights, however it seems that women of all heights would not find me attractive. Oh good lord, this had better not be another ridiculous thread about how men are better than women because...blah, blah, blah...
RRyan65 Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 The problem arises when Im standing next to my buddy Brandon, who looks almost exaclty like me. the only difference. Im 5'9 185 with an athletic build. and he is 6'5 255 with the same build. if Im out with him, I mind as well be his pet monkey who dances for change becuase thats all the attention im going to get. This really isnt even about weather or not I can meet women. I know I'm Smart, funny, good looking, and hard working. I can get a woman if I really want her. It just hurts to be dismissed right out of hand becuase of something out of my control. Oh, and to the guy who is 6'8. I have an Idea for a reality show. me and you switch places..... I go pick up ladies with a bunch of vietnamesse dudes and watch as the women come flocking and you go out for a night on the town with Shaq, Yao Ming, Shawn Bradley, Pao gasol and Kevin Nash and watch as you get passed up cause your the little guy. LMFAO at that pet monkey comment! That's hilarious! Check it out though, I have been told that I was too tall (obviously). When women say they like tall men, they really probably mean between 6' and 6'4", unless they have the "fetish". I was standing outside the bar one night while my buddies were trying to mack on a group of 21 yo's when one of them said "I dont like really tall guys" I'm like "WTF? I'm not even looking at you, bitch!" But it hit me, being too tall may not be as bad as being too short (you're not too short), but there are def. women out there with a distaste for the extremely vertically gifted. Just as there are women who won't date black guys. How bad do you think they have it? But some women go after certain features, green eyes, tall, buff, tattoos, etc... It just so happens that features that are external are easier to spot, therefore easier to draw attention to. The great internal attributes are harder to advertise, but are the ones that count for the most, I think. I like your reality show idea. And I'll tell you something else, you've got a sense of humor that should carry you throughout the singles scene pretty well. But don't settle for Brandon's crumbs, little simian.
sumdude Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 There's something to it for sure. I'm about 5' 11" so not short at all. One of my best friends is also my office mate at work. There is a certain extra amount of attention and respect he gets from his height advantage. I see it with both men and women. I even give him crap about it sometimes in fun. "You only got that promotion first because you're taller." etc etc There's something about having to look up at someone that triggers a response from people. I think it goes all the way back to childhood.. our authority figures were always taller. And if you're used to looking down at most people you have your own perspective and attitude too. Kind of a built in confidence. All that being said, it helps to be tall at the very beginning to get some attention and attraction but then it's always about who you are and how you act and present yourself that really matters. If you think being shorter is a big disadvantage and makes you less desirable then you will make that true by the way you act. As for women.. I like petite girls. There are certain fun things you can do with them.. lol my ex wife was all of 5' and tiny while I'm almost 6ft and built like a truck. Worked for me while it lasted!
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