I'm Joe Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I am only about 5'9 on a good day. all my freinds are 6'0 to 6'6 Not only do I feel like a little kid around them but it seems like all they get all the attention from women. I'm not a bad looking guy. I would even say Im down right good looking when I try. but If I hang around most of my freinds they always get the attention. they are not any better looking than me so it seems like it has to be their height. So ladies I need you to be honest even if it's not what I want to hear. how important is height to you? and am I at all justified in thinking it is because of my height?
Chinook Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Hi Joe I can't speak for other ladies but yes, I like tall men. My preference is for men over 6ft. But guess what..? My guy is 5ft 11. Basically, it depends on how picky the lady is. For me, I like tall men but it doesn't stop me dating a shorter guy. In fact, many years ago I dated a guy who was only 5ft 2. I stopped dating him because he was a jerk, not because he was shorter than me (I'm 5ft 6 btw).
Citizen Erased Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm 5'2 so you're incredibly tall to me. I'd imagine only some women that are of the same height or taller would have a problem.
Chinook Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Oh also Joe, one of my best friends is 5ft 10 and her hubby is 5ft 9. So try not to worry. I think like CE says only some particular women will find it an issue. Try not to take things personally.
Author I'm Joe Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Well I supose Its all relative for instance My mom is 4'10 so me and just about every other adult are giants next to her.... but that is kinda what I am talking about. I think If I was by myself I would be regarded as more attractive, it's the juxtaposition of me with other guys. I imagine the women saying to themselves "do I want a boy or do I want a man?"
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I would say in a social situation, I might be more drawn towards a taller man. But when it comes right down to it and dating them - I usually end up dating guys right about my height or only an inch or two taller. The guy I'm currently seeing is 5'9" and I'm 5'7". So while it SHOULDN'T matter - in first impressions - it could, quite possibly.
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm tall myself, so the minimum I like is a guy who's about the same height, at least. Taller is always nicer. I was with a shorter guy at some point, and it just kind of killed the sex appeal actually. It wasn't the main issue in our relationship, but his height wasn't a turn on
xjadex Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Height is only an issue for me, if he is same height or smaller than me....and I'm 5ft 2". I prefer taller guys, but nothing over 6ft!! That is to tall for me.
lovestruck818 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I am only about 5'9 on a good day. all my freinds are 6'0 to 6'6 Not only do I feel like a little kid around them but it seems like all they get all the attention from women. I'm not a bad looking guy. I would even say Im down right good looking when I try. but If I hang around most of my freinds they always get the attention. they are not any better looking than me so it seems like it has to be their height. So ladies I need you to be honest even if it's not what I want to hear. how important is height to you? and am I at all justified in thinking it is because of my height? I wont date anyone over 5'9"...lol. Ideally, if you are a guy and 5'5" we're getting married right now. Lol. I LOVE shorty men!!!! <3
LovieDove24 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Believe me, if she really likes you the height won't matter. Sure everyone has their "type" but when it really boils down to it, personality and love trumps all. Unless she is just looking for a trophy, or a wallet. Then yeah, maybe things like height, hair color, your bank account will matter. I'm 5'9 myself and I am dating a guy right now who is 5'9 as well. If I got any kind of impression that he was uncomfortable with not being taller than me I would be uncomfortable too. Its all in how you carry yourself. 1
DunnoWhat Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm 6ft 1 and it's never been an advantage to me. So does it matter.... it's just seen as a bonus I'd say. Not a deciding factor in attraction.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 So ladies I need you to be honest even if it's not what I want to hear. how important is height to you? and am I at all justified in thinking it is because of my height? It's like this... before a woman gets to know you... your judged 100% on shallow stuff. Your height is one of the more important things. The more shallow the girl is in general, the more important your height will be to her. I am just a little taller than you, so I know how this goes.
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 5'9" is not short. The chip is on your shoulders. Don't let it bow you down.
kashmir Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm 6' 2" and I actually feel short a lot because every day I'm around guys who are my height to 6' 6". I think the attraction that comes from height is more of a psychological thing. If you're face-to-face with a guy who is several inches shorter than you, it helps your confidence out a lot. If you know that you're always that pair of eyes that seems to stick out above your friends' heads, you feel more powerful and mightier.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 5'9" is not short. The chip is on your shoulders. Don't let it bow you down. Better to face reality head on, with an understanding of how things are, than to stick your head in the sand and pretend things are how you want them to be. 5'9" can be short... when your being compared, and that's the point of his post.
RunAway88 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Some girls like tall men, some like short men, other like average height men. Who cares if a girl turns you down for her height? Don't let a woman control yourself worth, they are not worth any time stressing or worrying over. Just enjoy as many as you can and wait for the right one to come along who won't have any hang ups about your physical appearance.
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Better to face reality head on, with an understanding of how things are, than to stick your head in the sand and pretend things are how you want them to be. 5'9" can be short... when your being compared, and that's the point of his post. The univeral attractiveness train is something that people need to get off of, thinking they can and should be God's gift to the world. So you get discounted by a portion of women. Big deal. Target the ones who aren't affected solely by height. It's not the deciding factor to overall attraction. Once you realize this, you'll work with your strengths, not self-flagellate your weaknesses. This is the blame game and useless: She's not attracted to me because of my height. Where more than likely it's: She doesn't find me interesting.
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 A recent thread on the subject. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t172739/?highlight=short+height Try "search" and "short height" for many hours of reading
Stitch Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I like taller men, and at 5'1 it leaves me with a lot to choose from. My boyfriend is 5'11. I wouldn't worry to much, I don't think he would have considered a Petite girlfriend until he met me. When it comes down to it, I think its who you are that counts most. If its really an issue you could always date short women.
RunAway88 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I find very short women from 5ft 3 and below revolting. They're practically midgets.
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I find very short women from 5ft 3 and below revolting. They're practically midgets. That would be me at 5'2.5". Why doesn't it bother me if you find me revolting?
RunAway88 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 That would be me at 5'2.5". Why doesn't it bother me if you find me revolting? I wouldn't want you to care, why would I? I am probably not your type, which isn't a bad thing either is it? Though it probably bothers you a bit, otherwise why else would you reply?
movingonandon Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Everytime I see a post like that, I remind myself that Al Pacino is 5'7", and most girls'd still hit it . So, forget the height, put some crazy in your eye, and there you go . I'm 5'9" myself, and never thought it to be a problem except with A) extremely entitled girls with long list of "requirements" that I wouldn't want to have aything in common anyway and B) girls that are much taller - but they are still a minority (in spite of all the hormones in the milk and all).
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I wouldn't want you to care, why would I? I am probably not your type, which isn't a bad thing either is it? Though it probably bothers you a bit, otherwise why else would you reply? Because it amuses me to do so. I know for fact that you're not my type. Your attitude says it all.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 The univeral attractiveness train is something that people need to get off of, thinking they can and should be God's gift to the world. So you get discounted by a portion of women. Big deal. Target the ones who aren't affected solely by height. It's not the deciding factor to overall attraction. Once you realize this, you'll work with your strengths, not self-flagellate your weaknesses. This is the blame game and useless: She's not attracted to me because of my height. Where more than likely it's: She doesn't find me interesting. Yes! In short this is exactly what I am trying to say! OP, When hanging with your tall friends, just realize that your not going to get the same amount of attention. Learn to generate your own attention.
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