moondogg Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Hi Guys I am in a dilemma here, please advise. I met a girl thru her cousin a couple of weeks ago. I proposed to her and she said ok, i said we can should date casually, no pressure. We hung out together with the rest of our frends but she suddenly became very cold and rude, this behaviour is only when im around. I told her i think this is not gonna work and we must rather just forget it, this was after the 2nd day that we proposed. We saw each other cause our click of frends are in the same circle, her cousins are my frends. She told her cousin that im cute.i also know that something bad happened to her in her past..........she was raped, so I wanted to show her that she can trust me and that i dont see her as a piece of as.i wanted to respect her and that is why i wasnt rushing things. She later told me that i dont have a backbone and im still with over my ex girlfrend and that i irritate her but she cant say what it is.She said that we can neva be more than frends and we left it at that.........we neva spoke about "us".I saw her as a frend but she would be very unfriendly only towards me but with the reset of the group she would be ok. Nobody else has a problem with me besides her. I havent been pursuing her and i except her as my frend even though i l admit that i do like her and have feeling for her, so she isnt getting much attention from me but here s where the confusing part comes in: When we are in each other s company she allways bust my b@lls thruout the entire nite, even when i ignore her and speak to everyone else but she will jump in the conversation and say something to me or about me even if i wsnt in the wrong. PPl that witnes this always joke and say "u guys must give me an invitation to the wedding" cause its definately gonna happen........even her uncle. Can anybody tell me what this is about? Why would she behave in such a manner? Is it possibly because i was prpared to be frends so soon, cause im not running after her? She made it clear that im not her type, is she lying to me,does she really have feelings for me but is too proud/stubborn to admit? Is the rape situation making her put up a protective barrier and is it affecting her behaviour? Wht am I doing wrong in this situation?
RRyan65 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Sorry she was raped, but she's damaged goods. Once she fixes herself, then she can put herself on the market. Until then, forget her.
Surfer Dude Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 She sounds dangerous. Drop her. Don't talk to her. Don't acknowledge her existence. She needs to sort herself out before she can hang out with people.
prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I would step away from her. She sounds like an emotional mess.
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