EnigmaXOXO Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 It's a way to weed out gold diggers and guys who aren't driven, like I am. I think for anyone, it’s a great way to filter out those who are with you for what you have rather than who you are. It makes all the difference in the world when it comes to love, loyalty and relationship longevity... and whether or not someone is still willing to stand proudly beside you when your looks fade, your 401K dries up, and you’re both headed for the poor house! Wrong! In a relationship with an amazing man. Cheers to finding your needle-in-a-haystack, TBF!
Dumbledore Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 well my chinese immirgrant old fashioned mom said that a reason girls won;t take me seriously or want to date me or have me as a bf is b/c i don't have a POWER JOB. Listen to your mother, because she knows what she's talking about. The amount of money a man makes directly equates to his self worth. If you don't have money, then the next-best thing is power, because power can generate the same privileges that money affords. If you have neither of these, then you may still be taken on as a "project" man, but it's quite unlikely - fixer uppers are in plentiful supply.
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I think for anyone, it’s a great way to filter out those who are with you for what you have rather than who you are. It makes all the difference in the world when it comes to love, loyalty and relationship longevity... and whether or not someone is still willing to stand proudly beside you when your looks fade, your 401K dries up, and you’re both headed for the poor house!Exactly. Weeding out the superficial should be everyone's criteria for a viable relationship. Cheers to finding your needle-in-a-haystack, TBF! Thanks Enigma! He's something special, someone I can't ever have regrets getting to know, regardless of relationship outcome.
Dumbledore Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Cheers to finding your needle-in-a-haystack, Hahahahaha. Remember that snowmen melt in the spring (whilst some females remain frozen year-round). Your statement is tantamount to declaring O'bama as the best President ever (not something that I necessary disagree with).
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 So OP, what's your criteria for "success"? That's far more meaningful than what other people believe.
Dumbledore Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Money and/or power are the only meaningful metrics for success. Fame is fleeting (as is power, to some degree).
carhill Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 MPF are societal constructs, external to the person. TBF is asking an internal question, IMO.
Dumbledore Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 I'm financially stable and won't support a man. Interesting comment, but irrelevant to the development of this thread. Men and women might support families, but support doesn't have to follow your narrow definition of money. Support is of many kinds, and the heads of the family need to be bringing their own mix of qualities so that the family can function to the best of its potential. You obviously buy into the various gender stereotypes, which is fine - nothing very wrong with that. Each to their own, I say. (Hopefully, nobody took much offense from your comments.)
Trialbyfire Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 MPF are societal constructs, external to the person. TBF is asking an internal question, IMO. Nice to see someone capable of delving below the surface.
Dumbledore Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 TBF is asking an internal question, IMO. Internalising is a huge problem on these boards, where objectivity is a rare thing. Sadly, very few of us are able to recover from the scars of a chequered past.
refurb Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 Let me tell you a little story.... I work in a high-tech industry. A majority of people make 100K+, live in big homes and drive fancy cars. There is a girl I work with. An absolute beauty. Very pretty face and because she works out a lot, a stunning body. I think a lot of guys don't approach her because she is so attractive. After digging a little deeper I find out she had been single for quite a while, but recently got married. To whom you ask? An outsider contractor who takes care of our hazardous waste. Blue collar job, probably nothing past high school. The moral of the story? Go after what you want and don't worry about the "rules". RF
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