Chimera1 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 My world just fell into pieces, tiny little pieces. About me, I'm 20, and my and my girlfriend broke up. I am posting here because I don't have anyone I can share my feelings with. I shared everything with my girlfriend, and now I don't trust anyone anymore. (my mothertongue isn't english, just you know.) We were together for 9 months (the most beautiful 9months of my life). My love for her was unconditionally.. The last 9 months I almost saw her every day. Last week, out of the blue she said "I want to break up", i asked why and she answered "We are to different". I tought, if that makes her happy, I can't make her unhappy.. 2 days after that, I realised that my life was pointless without her by my side, so I said i wanted to talk, she said that she didn't wanted to talk face-to-face, but that she did wanted to talk on messenger. I said I needed her in my life, and all the things I tought of to make her change her mind. She just said she made up her mind and nothing would change that. I asked for my stuff (things I need for work and such) at her place, she said she would drop it of. Yesterday, I asked for my stuff again, no anwer. I go out and she was there too, she ignored me, I ignored her, she was having fun, drinking a lot of alcohol and flirting. I went somewhere else because I didn't wanted to see those three things being combined. Before I left I gave her a letter (stupid-stupid-stupid me) not saying how much I needed or loved her, not to come back, just about how I felt and the mistakes I tought I made. Today, no answer, no text, nothing. I start to realize she wouldn't come back so i sended a text saying "I will come at your place to collect my stuff, if you want to talk one last time, we can, but i have given up hope) When I got there she gave me my things, I asked if she wanted to talk, she said no, it has no use. I DON'T love you anymore. That moment my heart skipped a beat, I hoped it would explode or just stopped beating at all, but it just went on.. Now I have some questions, I don't want any contact with her untill I hope the end of time, but we have mutual friends we always went out with, and she lives close to me, way to close. What can I do? How do I ever get over her? She was and still is a piece of me. Is there anything against the pain I am suffering from? How do I move on?
eDave Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Nope. Nothing you can do, or should do, and I am sorry. She is being very cold towards you and, IMO, not very respectful of you or the time you had together. About all you can do at this point is go NC (read all about that on here), reflect and take the pain. You are both very young so things change really quickly. That is what happened to her. Be a dignified gentlemen and give her the final gift of letting her go. Don't worry about the letter. At least she knows how you feel and it is now up to her. Take with you that satisfaction, rise above this and live, damnit live! (lol) Any more contact will come across as needy and pathetic in her mind. You will also read here that many times, when you have accepted and moved on, they come back.... Not what you want to hear but there are countless testimonies here that say the same thing.
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 It never stops hurting me to hear someones story. So many are similar but....people don't deserve to have this happen. I can never describe the pain that Chimera1 is feeling right now. I know lots of people on here have felt it too. Brother there isn't anything you can do but just trudge along and deal with it. It's been like........3 months for me, and I'm STILL dealing with it. Its painful, it sucks, but its going to make you a stronger person. Take care of yourself man. There are people who know what you're going through. And you've found that place.
smile_through_tears Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 She sounds like my ex....so painful isnt it??? and yet they dont even care because they're not the ones feeling the pain......but I bet if someone did to them what they did to us....they would think of us and see how cold & hurtful they were being....
Author Chimera1 Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 Today was hell, I am so stupid to think everything will change for the better. My head says I am doing the right thing, but my heart doesn"t want to understand. What else can I do to forget her? I deleted all her texts, her phonenumber her emailadress and I deleted her on messenger. I don't want to see her, but what if I run in to her? What if she shows up at places I am at? Anyone can tell me something more about no contact?
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 do what you can for NC man. if you do run into her .... and it will happen. Just do what you can to leave as fast as possible...****s going to be rough. You just have to do what you can to take care of yourself.
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