bobbeepin Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Last night my b/f and i had a party. I got way too drunk, i don't remember anything that happened. My b/f and some other people had to tell me everything, they told me this morning that i was hanging all over everyone and sitting on their laps, including guys, and even caressing a guy's head or something. people were even going up to my b/f and asking him if he was getting pissed off because of how i was acting. At around 5 a.m. people had left except for a couple of friends, and for some reason i exploded on my b/f, calling him names and apparently screaming at the top of my lungs at him for no reason at all, nothing had prompted it, he told me that he was trying to get me to stop drinking and to sit down, so i started screaming at him. I have no idea why i acted like such an idiot, and screamed at him, it's so out of character for me to behave like that, and to think that it's okay that i sit on guys' laps is crazy. i don't remember anything i said or did last night, but i barely ate yesturday and got drunk really quick, and i was also pissed off that one of his female co-workers was there, who i feel has a thing for him, but i didn't make a big deal about it, and i think i was drinking taquila, which i never ever drink. Anyways i feel soo horrible about this and am hating myself this morning because of it, i just cannot believe i acted that way. my b/f is kindof mad at me but isn't making a big deal about it, but i feel so bad and guilty, and i feel like a fool and that all of his friends are thinking "why the hell is he with that girl?" except i have never acted that way before so i dunno. i don't know how to deal with this and to make my b/f understand how bad i feel and that i'm sincerely sorry for it. any advice? has anyone ever acted this way when you got too intoxicated?
Ronni_W Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Doesn't really matter how anyone else acts when they're drunk, does it? And feeling "bad and guilty" for another second isn't going to be too productive, either. It's another of those situations where there just is not a "do over" button, so the ONLY positive, sane things you can do are: 1. Apologize and make amends to those you feel deserve that from you, and 2. Figure out what self-learning you can and want to take away from this incident, so that it doesn't happen again. That's it. Just feeling "bad and guilty" and obsessively wondering "WTF happened?" are going to be exercises in futility and further self-indulgence. And there's no need to add any more negativity and dysfunction to the whole mess. Forgive yourself, and move forward in a calm and rational way
JennaGennaro Posted January 27, 2009 Posted January 27, 2009 Just stay away from the alcohol in the future, or at least only drink to the point that you REMEMBER what you did the night before. I have never been $hitfaced as they like to call it. My mother always told me not to be the girl that everyone talks about the next day and always be able to recall what you did. Nothing worse than having someone else tell you how you behaved because you cannot remember. That being said, I think you slipped and it happens. Don't beat yourself up over it. Just don't let it happen again. You can prove to your BF that you are sorry by acting like a respectable GF to him. Be loving and show him that you care by your words and your actions. If he wasn't that bothered by it, I don't see how you did anything wrong. That is unless there were other reasons why you wanted to get drunk and sit on other guys' laps. Alcohol brings out one's inhibitions. It sounds like you acted out to make your BF jealous because his co-worker was there. You are lucky that your actions did not drive him to her because they could have, but just because you are jealous of her does not mean that he has feelings for any other girl besides you. From my experience, drinking does no one any good and leads to fights and yelling (like you said you did). I have been to my share of "parties" where people got drunk and fought. The girls accused other girls of hitting on their men. My male cousin's GF at the time accused me (his cousin) of hitting on him. Like I would want to be romantically involved with my own cousin?! I wasn't even drinking (designated driver). She ended up driving drunk and flying out the backseat window of her car some years later. Needless to say, she and my cousin did not make it as a couple. So cheer up, it could be worse.
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