Cheated, just break up...all started with her changing her facebook status...

[jdluz]

(error title CHEATED ON)

 

We have been dating for two months, (Im 30, shes 24), like a fairytale since day one, she told me she had issues since the beginning...she has OCD, very ansious and panick atacks, suicidal thoughts now and then, every little comment can put her down (low self esteem)...but when she was ok she was all i could ever ask for...

 

Se was very entusiastic with our relationship...she told her mother finally she found someone who trully cared for her...she always have been cheated on, and she never did...so it was hard gaining her trust...but i did everything to see her well..took her on trips...being with couples of friends...things nobody ever done with her...all her family and friends was happy and sent me congratulations for what she talked about me...

 

Then she changed her relationship status in facebook to being in a relationship...her previous boyfriend of 6mths saw that and put some photos of him making up with a girl and that really got into her...she told me about his childish behavior and i told her that she shouldnt even be bothered by it...

 

Then she told me she needed closure with the guy since they were not in speaking terms because he misstreated her during the relatioship, and that he worked at her place and since both of them have relationships now its stupid they dont have a normal friendship...

 

I was not confortable about it and i told her, but she went for a coffe with the guy anyway...that night after being with the guy she told me she loved me, and was glad that she had that part of her live finally resolved...this was one week ago..

 

But in bed she wasnt the same again, and i could feel it something happened that day...i starting being really annoying about that day and she started to be mad at me because i was making so much trouble about it...but my guts told me (always trust your guts) that day something happened...

 

Today i bluffed...i told her i saw her phone and i know they had sex...guess what...they did...she doesnt know why... she says she loves me more then anything and nedded that to prove something to herself...that everybody cheated on her so she had to know how it was...she didnt make much sense....beg me to forgive her...

 

She got suicidal so i called the guy and told him that now he should take care of her, because he know that she has serious problems, she is alone, dont have family in this country... and that i had to leave her, "so congratulations its all yours now"... well i leaved the house after i was sure the guy was going to meet her...i dont want a death in my concience but i was there for more then 3h after i breakup and she was all crying and i even huged her...i pitty her...i called her mother that doesnt understand whats happening because everyday she was telling that i was the greatest (i didnt tell her my gf cheated, just so she call her daughter and see if shes ok)

 

Im hurting...but believe or not...im more sad that she cant even old a good thing withot sabotage it...shes self destructive...

 

I think we commited too soon, a asked her to be my girlfriend 3 weeks ago, and she was happy with my request...did she freaken out? Its easier to forgive if it was right in the beggining of the relationship...i know she will not cantact me because she thinks that she has to respect me...what should i do? I completely numb....i really was starting to love that girl...

[Frankasy]

So she cheats on you and all you think about is having a death in your conscience? WTF seriously. It doesn't make sense, it truly doesn't in fact hardly anything from your story makes sense.

 

You've been dating for two months only but she already introduced you to her mother as her future husband.

The thing with her ex, I hardly understood anything and her reasoning about her cheating on you.

Instead of you telling her mother to take care of her you tell her ex.

You being so calm about it, the whole cheating thing with her, talking with her ex just for her sake.

 

Like I said it's very hard for all of those I wrote above to actually make sense, seriously.

 

Anyways that's the past. Now what is your problem? Are you feeling lonely, hurt? Or couldn't find someone to open to regarding your situation.

[jdluz]

So she cheats on you and all you think about is having a death in your conscience? WTF seriously. It doesn't make sense, it truly doesn't in fact hardly anything from your story makes sense.

 

You've been dating for two months only but she already introduced you to her mother as her future husband.

The thing with her ex, I hardly understood anything and her reasoning about her cheating on you.

Instead of you telling her mother to take care of her you tell her ex.

You being so calm about it, the whole cheating thing with her, talking with her ex just for her sake.

 

Like I said it's very hard for all of those I wrote above to actually make sense, seriously.

 

Anyways that's the past. Now what is your problem? Are you feeling lonely, hurt? Or couldn't find someone to open to regarding your situation.

 

I was not introduced to her family, she is foreigner, she lives alone in my country, no family and almost no friends ans she doesnt even speak the local language. So everyday she tells how is everything doing to her people...she had a problem at the job once and went nuts and her mother called me to ask me about her and told me she was saying all this stuff about me being what she wanted for life...i know its soon...maybe thats why she went confused like this...i dont know what to think....

 

Im a very calm guy, thats why before i leaved i maked sure she wasnt alone...now im really getting angry....and my brain is looking for answers... yes this doesnt make sense...we were supossed to be on the honeymoon fase now...and she does this right away and then says she loves me and never said that to anyone, WTF....

 

Yes...i dont want to tell about this to anyone i know...so i aprecciate your comments...

[You'reasian]

Which country?

[jdluz]

Which country?

Portugal? Why is that important to have your opinion?...

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

Good for you. You read to often on here about guys who are willing to put up with it. You will find someone who loves ONLY you. She wanted to find out what cheating was like, because she has been cheated on? Well now she can feel what it's like to be kicked to the curb for being a s1ut.

[jdluz]

Good for you. You read to often on here about guys who are willing to put up with it. You will find someone who loves ONLY you. She wanted to find out what cheating was like, because she has been cheated on? Well now she can feel what it's like to be kicked to the curb for being a s1ut.

 

Thanks, you made me smile

[You'reasian]

Portugal? Why is that important to have your opinion?...

 

Trying to understand the environment - potential cultural background, biases, time-limit for visas, difficulty of learning the language etc.

 

Was the girl European too?

[jdluz]

Trying to understand the environment - potential cultural background, biases, time-limit for visas, difficulty of learning the language etc.

 

Was the girl European too?

 

Yes european, but Hungarian. She talks very good english and german. So what do you think?

 

altough i had a girl that was my friend who once told me she ****ed her ex-boyfriend one last time to make sure she was over him and that she was prepared for a new relationship. Does this make sense to someone out there?

[You'reasian]

Yes european, but Hungarian. She talks very good english and german. So what do you think?

 

Seems like she should be able to pick up Portugeuse if she can handle Hungarian, English and German. Learning a third foreign language would seem relatively easy.

 

altough i had a girl that was my friend who once told me she ****ed her ex-boyfriend one last time to make sure she was over him and that she was prepared for a new relationship. Does this make sense to someone out there?

 

She used that last sex as way to change her meaning of the relationship, a coping mechanism?

[jdluz]

Seems like she should be able to pick up Portugeuse if she can handle Hungarian, English and German. Learning a third foreign language would seem relatively easy.

 

 

 

She used that last sex as way to change her meaning of the relationship, a coping mechanism?

 

She always said that wanted a long term relationship but all she got till now was 2month max....we joked that it does seem that this time we gona make a recorder for her...and bamm...she ruins....

 

What are they runing for...want to be a sex doll for life? Se doesnt get out of home if not to go somewhere that she is bamging...

[Davey McG]

What are they runing for...want to be a sex doll for life? Se doesnt get out of home if not to go somewhere that she is bamging...

 

Could be... I think you've had a lucky escape there. She is responsible for her own decisions and she may learn a life-lesson from it. Alternatively, she may remain crazy.

 

Its no longer your problem - be relieved she didn't do this years down the line and that you found out about it now.

[jdluz]

This is just so stupid...when we meet she told me how she was expecting that i dont play with her as she as always been failthfull and was always cheated on, a week before she stray she was telling me that her married boss make a pass at her and that she didnt know how people think that could cheat and dont have a problem with their conscious, and started recording "cheaters" in the realityTV channel, she even had it playing when i meet her at night in the day they she ****ed him...

 

i fell that i was used for a social experiment..

[DaedalusDemands]

Good for you. You read to often on here about guys who are willing to put up with it. You will find someone who loves ONLY you. She wanted to find out what cheating was like, because she has been cheated on? Well now she can feel what it's like to be kicked to the curb for being a s1ut.

 

HAHAHAHHA! Dude, I can tell, you have been through some serious ****...

 

I've read several of your posts, and I'm starting to think more and more like you all the time...

 

Not to make fun or light of this guy's problem... but seriously man, you should take his advice.