Shygirl15 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 i did give a REAL answer Oh, okay. I find it unbalanced and unfair however if he gives me something rather expensive and all I have to offer is sex, which I also enjoy by the ways so not really a gift specifically for him.
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Actually, guys have it easy: chocolates, flowers, or small jewelry.
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Actually, guys have it easy: chocolates, flowers, or small jewelry. Actually a good man will put more effort into it than just think of the obvious cliched presents.
Trialbyfire Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 If both you and your SO begrudge V-day, why celebrate? You can easily show your love for each other, on any other day.
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 Actually a good man will put more effort into it than just think of the obvious cliched presents. "A good man"? Come on. If my guy gave me flowers, I'd be very happy. I don't see how that would make him a bad man.
robinsonmark045 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Most guys don't really care. But they definitely don't mind them! I personally love Vday gifts!
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 "A good man"? Come on. If my guy gave me flowers, I'd be very happy. I don't see how that would make him a bad man. Yes but it is an easy, no-brainer, effortless thing to do really on Valentines. Any other day of the year then yes, lovely but not really much thought has gone into it if it is for Valentines
baker23 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 The best gifts for guys are handmade gifts; they seen to appreciate them more because you took the effort to do something for them. Every special ocassion that I try to buy a gift for my boyfriend is always stressful as I never seem to be a hit with my gifts, no matter how much effort and thought I put on them. He will also be embarrassed if I get him something really expensive, but everytime I make something for him, he absolutely loves it. One year, I made him a romantic dinner the week before Valentine's Day, just some candles, his favorite food and dessert. It was totally unexpected, and he was really happy. Other times, I just either bake his favorite dessert or get his favorite ice cream, and it seems to be enough; he certantly seems geniunely pleased.
carhill Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 If both you and your SO begrudge V-day, why celebrate? You can easily show your love for each other, on any other day. I like this advice. I tend to be more spontaneous with showings of affection/appreciation and don't like being constrained by societal calendars. If the OP and her SO are on the same page regarding such sharing, I could see V-day just being another day.
Shygirl15 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I agree with Anne, it's not as easy for them as you think Prettybaby. I guess men differ as well. Last Vday I didn't give out any gifts to the person I was dating because my male co-worker advised me that Vday is just for women, no gifts needed for men. My ex ended up very dissapointed because he thought I would give him something, and was cold towards me for weeks! I wonder if it's wise to just ask them if they expect something or not?
baker23 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 I forgot to mention that sex is also a must. Guys really enjoy seeing their women wearing sexy lingerie.
Shygirl15 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 "A good man"? Come on. If my guy gave me flowers, I'd be very happy. I don't see how that would make him a bad man. Let's change "good" to "thoughtful" then.
anne1707 Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Let's change "good" to "thoughtful" then. Which is what I was trying to say but maybe not so well - thank you Shygirl
jerbear Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Gadgets break but memories last forever... Remember the lingerie he likes. Flowers, chocolates, small jewelry are so blah. After the V-day sex, continue with part 2 of the planning for a long trip/vacation. Not many things beat vacation sex. Oh for me it also gives me an idea what is on her mind. BTW, post #2 was an direct answer.
Author prettybaby Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 I agree with Anne, it's not as easy for them as you think Prettybaby. I guess men differ as well. Last Vday I didn't give out any gifts to the person I was dating because my male co-worker advised me that Vday is just for women, no gifts needed for men. My ex ended up very dissapointed because he thought I would give him something, and was cold towards me for weeks! I wonder if it's wise to just ask them if they expect something or not? Oh that sucks. I just have no idea what to get him and I get the feeling that anything I'll buy will be stupid and he'll have to fake a "thank you" reaction lol I guess I'm easy to please. Pass me some flowers and I'm on cloud 9!
alphamale Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 Oh, okay. I find it unbalanced and unfair however if he gives me something rather expensive and all I have to offer is sex, which I also enjoy by the ways so not really a gift specifically for him. i was talking special occasion sex, not the typical everyday garden-variety type there is a difference
movingonandon Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 No, NO, *NO*, and HELL NO! V-day must die:rolleyes:
Stitch Posted January 25, 2009 Posted January 25, 2009 My boyfriend always goes out of his way to buy me wonderful presents. (He's such a sweetheart) I'd feel terrible if I didn't get him something. I like to be on equal footing. That being said, my boyfriend makes more money then I do so I can't afford to spend large amounts. I'll probably buy him a nice gift and make him an awesome chocolate cake.
Shygirl15 Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 i was talking special occasion sex, not the typical everyday garden-variety type there is a difference lol! Gotcha. Prettybaby, I have taken AM's comments into consideration and I think I'll just cook my BF a good meal and offer myself to him in a nice RED lingerie later on . A lot cheaper too. Let us know on what you're planning to do.
chrislovestosurf Posted January 26, 2009 Posted January 26, 2009 i wouldnt mind it if i was dating someone... i think it would be a nice surprise. Doesnt have to be anything big, maybe just something to make him feel special whatever that may be.
Author prettybaby Posted January 26, 2009 Author Posted January 26, 2009 lol! Gotcha. Prettybaby, I have taken AM's comments into consideration and I think I'll just cook my BF a good meal and offer myself to him in a nice RED lingerie later on . A lot cheaper too. Let us know on what you're planning to do. Yeah, I'm not sure yet. Probably a card. I'll try to be creative and write something insanely sweet lol And then I'll throw some sexy lingerie on, and that should do the trick. I suck at cooking and he's got everything he needs, except for a new car, which isn't exactly Valentine present material!
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